tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21458349355347363442024-03-13T04:58:40.257-07:00Crooked Straight | On The RocksThe Herohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03662757295331678003noreply@blogger.comBlogger581125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-91049844523547650542017-06-22T21:23:00.001-07:002018-02-08T19:39:59.294-08:00The Sunshine State [Day 4 and Outro]<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-K97A_8h0lak/WUyIB3ARZ8I/AAAAAAAAYIA/JxJikFHHfDkueY181qTInNjweQBnz23BgCLcBGAs/s1600/Drunk-Animals-Suffering-The-Morning-After-12.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="353" data-original-width="530" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-K97A_8h0lak/WUyIB3ARZ8I/AAAAAAAAYIA/JxJikFHHfDkueY181qTInNjweQBnz23BgCLcBGAs/s400/Drunk-Animals-Suffering-The-Morning-After-12.jpg" width="500" /></a></div><b><i>Sunday, May 28</i></b><br />
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I had once again awoken before my roommate, and once again posted up on the couch in the living room with <i>River Monsters</i>. Why fix what ain’t broken? <br />
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And I wasn’t broken—not quite. Close, but not quite. Tall pina coladas, seven or eight margaritas, two cigars, and an untold number of beers had given it their best shot. There was even a swig or two of Hypnotiq in there somewhere. But other than the cigar residue in my mouth and mild thumping in my head, I’d survived. <br />
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I wasn’t entirely sure my homie had until I got a text at 11:15.<br />
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<b>Dupa:</b> “There’s food in the fridge, playboy.”<br />
<b>Me:</b> “The hell you say”<br />
<b>Dupa:</b> “Yeah, you’re welcome.”<br />
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I opened the refrigerator to find most of an extra-large pizza and a calzone. There are worse ways to get the taste of cigars and hangover out of your mouth.<br />
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<a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-9sE9Ls1J1xI/WUyNzh72wCI/AAAAAAAAYIQ/pPyn2PXJNroyi0KDnu5z4ltjOaliBdLoQCLcBGAs/s1600/gatorade%252Biv%255B1%255D.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="320" height="163" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-9sE9Ls1J1xI/WUyNzh72wCI/AAAAAAAAYIQ/pPyn2PXJNroyi0KDnu5z4ltjOaliBdLoQCLcBGAs/s200/gatorade%252Biv%255B1%255D.JPG" width="200" /></a>We strolled down the street to the newlyweds’ apartment, stopping to buy bottles of Gatorade that we had each drained into our depleted bodies by the time we knocked on their door a few minutes later. Inside we found our disheveled crew, each looking like they’d been beat about the head by alcohol (<a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2017/06/the-sunshine-state-day-3.html" target="_blank">Tide even looked a little shorter</a>). Ton, to his credit, was fighting back, taking swigs of vodka and Sprite out of a large wine glass.<br />
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The updates about the prior night were many. Tiger Blood had outlasted Shafe in their battle for the alone time that Tide’s sister wasn’t offering; he walked her back to her hotel, but didn’t quite get the hint until she literally pushed him back onto the elevator. Tide recounted a story about Grunts, and in doing so dropped a flawless impression of him, noting that he rarely seemed to string together more than a few intelligible words. Shafe had nearly vomited in the bed of a random pickup truck in the Daq Shak parking lot, long before he'd pursued his love jones. <br />
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Ton’s postscript, however, topped them all. He had come back from the bathroom at the bar to find that everyone—even his wife—had left to go to the strip club. His phone had died, which made ordering an Uber impossible. Reminiscent of his days in Shadyside, he then walked two miles back to his hotel. Along the way he took a wrong turn at a fork in the road; he then “accidentally” kicked open a hole in the fence separating him from the stretch of highway that led back to his hotel, and crawled through it.<br />
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We hit the beach (minus Ton and Mrs. Ton, who had to get on the road), enjoying cold Coronas and the warm Gulf waters. Standing on a sandbar about 200 yards out, drinking a beer and staring out into the endless expanse of water, I found peace. At least until I remembered all the episodes of <i>River Monsters</i> that I had watched in the previous 48 hours.<br />
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<a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-SbuwFqiImgI/WUyT66IUCQI/AAAAAAAAYIs/yFNtYSgE_ZYsQ_UiTBPNKDO4uJkmLQ-zQCLcBGAs/s1600/9ce0b337a1f800175293b923e6c2bbec.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="378" height="200" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-SbuwFqiImgI/WUyT66IUCQI/AAAAAAAAYIs/yFNtYSgE_ZYsQ_UiTBPNKDO4uJkmLQ-zQCLcBGAs/s200/9ce0b337a1f800175293b923e6c2bbec.jpg" width="105" /></a>A relaxing day of sun, friends, and laughter, our Sunday Funday tied a perfect bow on the weekend. I didn’t get drunk—really, I don’t think it would’ve been possible by that point in time; I was drinking beers for much the same reason Greenpeace pours buckets of water on a beached whale. But recuperating with ocean air and stories (and the pizzas TK’s mom brought down to the apartment after we’d packed up and moved back inside at sunset) was what the soul needed, after three straight days of celebration. Three straight days of indulging in food, drink, and fun without repercussion. Three straight days of Florida. <br />
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I needed a day to run a diagnostic check on my sanity. I had to make sure I hadn’t gone <a href="https://youtu.be/1Y3FzVQi-R8" target="_blank"><i>full</i> Florida</a>. I had breathed the air for three days. I needed a measured day of calm to reassure myself that I hadn’t succumbed to the contagion, that I wasn’t walking nude through a liquor store or chewing on someone’s face. <br />
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Of course, if I did either of those things within the first 24 hours of returning to Pittsburgh, I’d have an excuse. <br />
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<b><i>Outro</i></b><br />
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Weeks before the wedding, Tide and I were talking about the planning, and I noted that she didn’t seem to be suffering the stresses that normally come with the task. She replied, “I honestly am more concerned about everyone being like ‘that was fuckin fun/ awesome’.” It’s safe to say she surpassed that goal. <br />
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Most weddings are fun. The good ones are awesome. This one sits in the upper echelon of legendary. <br />
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Tide and TK treated their friends and family to 72 hours of blissful mayhem. Lots of us hadn’t seen each other in years, even some among those who still lived in Pittsburgh. The simple act of getting everyone together in one room was, itself, worthy of praise. Making sure we were drunk, fed, and happy while it happened was just the whipped cream on top.<br />
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<a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dMA8ooros2M/WUyXMXooU3I/AAAAAAAAYJA/CbVGxY0uyxw-ZNbmC0MCi7Pd-XCjM-KEACLcBGAs/s1600/4cd205f352f050a5dd948e0842366ac8.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="294" data-original-width="192" height="200" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dMA8ooros2M/WUyXMXooU3I/AAAAAAAAYJA/CbVGxY0uyxw-ZNbmC0MCi7Pd-XCjM-KEACLcBGAs/s200/4cd205f352f050a5dd948e0842366ac8.jpg" width="131" /></a>Strip clubs, beer, Hooters girls, the beach, cigars at sunset, tequila, dancing fools, grouper sandwiches, bachelorette parties, and calculated hits using Smirnoff Ice. Life comes at you fast. But it slows down for brief stretches. When you pack the present full of laughter and freedom of spirit, every second resonates. And those stretches of time, saturated with joy, become a part of you, something that you carry forever. <br />
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It’s customary at a wedding to wish a lifetime of happiness to the bride and groom. In a small way, the bride and groom had bestowed a lifetime of happiness upon the rest of us.<br />
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They even got me to blog again. Florida's air is no joke.The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-19691762176953261852017-06-21T21:46:00.003-07:002017-06-21T21:48:26.422-07:00Party Hard<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-pw8Al9Hj-Lw/WUtKPk7bJaI/AAAAAAAAYG4/aUrdU0BuzCsvnOCU1bV2ODmcbHBeBVf-ACLcBGAs/s1600/screen-shot-2017-06-14-at-10-00-52-pm.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="332" data-original-width="470" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-pw8Al9Hj-Lw/WUtKPk7bJaI/AAAAAAAAYG4/aUrdU0BuzCsvnOCU1bV2ODmcbHBeBVf-ACLcBGAs/s1600/screen-shot-2017-06-14-at-10-00-52-pm.png" /></a></div>I've heard it said that "to the victor go the spoils." Rarely has that been more true than during the Pittsburgh Penguins' Stanley Cup Championship parade last week.<br />
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If you're not a hockey fan, or just live outside of the 412 and weren't privy to the extended coverage that local media gave the event, then you probably don't understand just how much celebrating this team did. Most of them, especially the younger guys like <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/875064407583227906" target="_blank">Jake Guentzel</a> (22-years-old) and Connor Sheary (25-years-old) spent a few hours of a steamy, 80+ degree Southwestern PA day pounding beers on the back of pickup trucks that crawled along the parade route. Their resulting dehydration levels were a thing of beauty.<br />
<br />
The Pittsburgh Post-Gazette's <a href="http://www.post-gazette.com/sports/penguins/2017/06/15/penguins-parade-olli-maatta-justin-schultz-beer-brian-dumoulin-shotgun-scott-wilson-jake-guentzel/stories/201706150227" target="_blank">Sean Gentille did a masterful job</a> the next day of documenting the highlights of the day.<br />
<blockquote>A year after he was caught on camera with a fistful of aluminum Bud Light bottles crammed into his face, Dumoulin had another solid beer-related moment. He bit a can that someone tossed him along the route — Bud Light again — and shotgunned it in the middle of the street.</blockquote><br />
<a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-GO0F3-73-sk/WUtIz7OIBEI/AAAAAAAAYGs/YkCe8fC5cgU7SqZwqEvhbVId1rFgEKSSgCLcBGAs/s1600/DCUweHvUQAEq4TT.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="901" height="135" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-GO0F3-73-sk/WUtIz7OIBEI/AAAAAAAAYGs/YkCe8fC5cgU7SqZwqEvhbVId1rFgEKSSgCLcBGAs/s200/DCUweHvUQAEq4TT.jpg" /></a>The best performance was, by far, defenseman Olli Maatta. The pictures and clips cataloging Maatta's day in Gentille's piece are each more spectacular than the one that came before it. And the photo of him being held up on his feet on back of the truck, wearing shades and a sloppy childlike grin that make him look like Anthony Michael Hall in <i>The Breakfast Club</i> [<i>right</i>], is destined to be a new avi or poster or <i>something</i> that I can keep in my life forever.<br />
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Though the parade passed less than a block away from my office building, I was feeling under the weather and declined to go out and watch firsthand. Instead, I watched on the 65in flat screen tv in our boardroom. Now I regret that decision. If, FSM willing, the Pens get the threepeat next year, I'm calling off from work, buying a case, and splitting it with the team as they pass by.The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-40721681200356079822017-06-19T21:28:00.001-07:002018-02-08T19:40:09.038-08:00The Sunshine State [Day 3]<a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-ry5-1q78CCU/WUiM97jMGmI/AAAAAAAAYDA/VtdyDz_Mrmwuw3uOQanOYfRj9lKlJsa-ACLcBGAs/s1600/Fishing-Wedding-Theme-3.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="961" data-original-width="1600" height="300" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-ry5-1q78CCU/WUiM97jMGmI/AAAAAAAAYDA/VtdyDz_Mrmwuw3uOQanOYfRj9lKlJsa-ACLcBGAs/s400/Fishing-Wedding-Theme-3.jpg" width="500" /></a><br />
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<b><i>Saturday, May 27</i></b><br />
<br />
I stumbled out to the couch and turned on the tv. An hour or so later Dupa experienced déjà vu, as again he shuffled out to the living room to find me watching <i>River Monsters</i> (*<i>shrug</i>*...it was a marathon weekend).<br />
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After watching Jeremy Wade swim with tigerfish in the Okavango Delta, we strolled down the street to <a href="http://www.stpetersburg.com/places/screwie-louies" target="_blank">Screwie Louie’s</a> for lunch. Sipping Coronas on their deck, watching tourists and locals pass by in various states of dress and consciousness, was the purest expression of beach life that you can find. <br />
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There’s something intoxicating about it. Even with all my objections to living in Florida—and there are many—I can fully appreciate the appeal, living at your own pace and holding onto each gust of warm ocean air. It was just this siren call that lured TK away from the life of a corporate drone in Pittsburgh. And it led him to the love of his life, who he’d be marrying a few hours later. Hard to argue with those results.<br />
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Ah yes, there was a wedding to get to. The open-ended dress code led me to an easy decision: a 90-degree day on a Florida beach? Shorts, short-sleeved button down, and boat shoes, baby. Watching my friends sweat in suits, dress pants, and long-sleeved shirts, I patted myself on my back all day [<i>much credit is also due to my personal stylist, <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2014/08/morning-briefing.html" target="_blank">Alex</a>, who helped me in shopping for my wardrobe prior to the trip</i>]. <br />
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<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-L7w6S_ONVyg/WUiO4VpcqNI/AAAAAAAAYDM/4lVT2H3iQLsoNWK97Jj3wEfYEQvbz5jGwCLcBGAs/s1600/18700100_10156196821124606_7267136588665213587_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="960" height="150" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-L7w6S_ONVyg/WUiO4VpcqNI/AAAAAAAAYDM/4lVT2H3iQLsoNWK97Jj3wEfYEQvbz5jGwCLcBGAs/s200/18700100_10156196821124606_7267136588665213587_n.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Beauty like this is perfect...for drinking.</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>My esteemed associate, Dupa, however, chose a tailored white linen suit, blue pinstriped shirt, and sandals. I cannot, in good conscience, hate on that decision.<br />
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The location for the ceremony was beautiful, with blue skies and blue-green waters serving as a backdrop. The one thing it lacked was alcohol, and I kicked myself for not following through on my idea to bring a cooler full of beer. <br />
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A grounds crew hastily assembled the archway that would serve as the altar; while we stood watching, someone pointed out that there was a beachside bar about 500 yards away that sold drinks in large, reusable cups. Dupa and I looked at each other, nodded, and headed off in that direction. We returned just before groomsmen began ushering parents and others down the aisle. I sipped on a tall cup of piña colada, while snapping pictures of groomsmen sweating out booze and a beautiful bride joyously striding across the sand towards her destiny.<br />
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The parents and the bridal party formed a receiving line afterwards, leading up to the edge of the beach. I told Tide’s parents how lucky we all felt TK was. I told TK’s parents I was friends with Dupa, but I was the good one. “That’s what we’ve heard,” his mom confirmed. <br />
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I complimented Tide on the silver and blue color scheme she’d chosen for the groom and groomsmen, but suggested one change. “The ties,” I explained while tracing my finger across TK’s navy-blue neckpiece. “They should have <a href="https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/564x/02/91/21/029121a4aea3a3adc33c44aa8dbaf660.jpg" target="_blank">orange stripes running across them</a>.” The bride lunged at me, connecting her tiny fist hard on my arm (and I really think she was aiming for my face, but was just too short to reach it).<br />
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War Eagle.<br />
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<a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-fKx9unBojnk/WUiSJVAHTrI/AAAAAAAAYDY/p0RMvLmUw2kFyQXJB9V_BsazmZLMzit_gCLcBGAs/s1600/ce15e30fee076a49442c9e602b2e7f2b.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="540" data-original-width="720" height="150" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-fKx9unBojnk/WUiSJVAHTrI/AAAAAAAAYDY/p0RMvLmUw2kFyQXJB9V_BsazmZLMzit_gCLcBGAs/s200/ce15e30fee076a49442c9e602b2e7f2b.jpg" width="200" /></a>Our buddy “Grunts,” was following me in the line. After he congratulated TK, he pulled back from their hug to add, “I’ve got a present for you in my back pocket.” He leaned forward to <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Icing_(game)" target="_blank">reveal a bottle of Smirnoff Ice</a>.<br />
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<b>TK:</b> *<i>incredulous</i>* “Did you just Ice me?” *<i>grabs the bottle, cracks it open, takes a knee, chugs it down</i>*<br />
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The wedding photographer was Johnny-on-the-spot, kneeling opposite TK to get an action shot of the icing.<br />
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Shafe was several people back from us in the line. When he got to the end and gave the bride a hug, he added, “I’ve got something in my pocket for you.” Then he leaned forward and revealed a bottle of Smirnoff Ice. Badass bride that she is, Tide took the bottle, cracked it open, took a knee, and chugged.<br />
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Have I mentioned that these two were made for each other?<br />
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While the wedding party did the photography portion of the day, the W&J demographic of the guest list piled under deck umbrellas at the beachside bar where Dupa and I had gotten the pre-ceremony drinks. Shafe yelled “Play Hall & Oates!” at the musician playing live on the deck, Billy’s girlfriend explained to me the difficulties of being a young teacher on the beach in the age of social media [<i>“I can’t be out here with my tits out.”</i>], rounds of drinks were bought and drank, and Mrs. Ton [<i>“I’m allowed to look—I’m married, I’m not dead.”</i>] and I scoped out the talent coming in off the sand.<br />
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Just as we were preparing to leave for the reception, Dupa struck upon an idea. He asked the bartender if they sold six packs. They did. He looked back at us with a grin, then ordered up a sixer of Smirnoff Ice to go. In one swift moment, he had just turned the wedding reception into a warzone. <br />
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The wedding’s second stage was held at the local Elks Lodge. Located right on the bay, the hall featured a deck with a beautiful view of waterside mansions, perfect for smoking the hand-rolled cigars that were available to all guests. The space was beautiful and yet still unpretentious. <br />
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And when the groom made it to his seat after his first dance with his bride and a dance with his mom, he found a cold bottle of Smirnoff Ice waiting for him. He sighed, cracked it, kneeled, and chugged.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-gA6BmSffg7o/WUqSpKnlCFI/AAAAAAAAYGc/Pti3Yer9gG4VxAkd0PAu9CNm_wOKPpzAACLcBGAs/s1600/20170527_193122.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-gA6BmSffg7o/WUqSpKnlCFI/AAAAAAAAYGc/Pti3Yer9gG4VxAkd0PAu9CNm_wOKPpzAACLcBGAs/s200/20170527_193122.jpg" width="200" height="164" data-original-width="1600" data-original-height="1314" /></a></div>A friend’s fiancée came back to our table with a margarita in a large glass, and I knew what my next order would be. Dupa got one as well, but soon decided he needed to be mobile, which could be awkward and troublesome with a large, heavy glass. He grabbed his large plastic cup from the beachside bar, poured his margarita into it, screwed on the lid, and began circulating. When he was due for a refill, he asked the bartender if she’d make a margarita directly in his travel cup. She happily accommodated him, and I wanted to hug her. But instead I restrained myself and handed my own travel cup forward for my next margarita.<br />
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Meanwhile, Grunts returned to his table after visiting the buffet. A Smirnoff Ice was on his chair. Another victim.<br />
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I filled myself up with delicious chicken parm, roast beef, veggies, potatoes, and more. It felt less like indulging in fine dining and more like packing sandbags against the rising river of margaritas flowing through me. It was needed fortification. <br />
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During his best man speech, Ton recalled a story from their college days, when TK had insisted they buy a bottle of Hypnotiq for a party. So, to christen the occasion, Ton motioned to TK’s sister, who walked a bucket of ice with two bottles of Hypno up to the front of the room and sat it in front of the bride and groom. Ton cracked open a bottle, and they each took a swig of the awful fruit juice/cognac mixture. <br />
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Wanting revenge later, TK called Shafe over and said two words: “Get Ton.” So, as we all stood at the bar talking, Shafe walked up, tapped Ton on his shoulder, and pointed down to his hunting boot. Ton found a bottle of Smirnoff Ice looking up at him. Crack, kneel, chug.<br />
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The dancefloor was active all night, whether Billy was performing N’Sync’s “Bye Bye Bye” routine, which he’d learned in middle school, or Dupa was posing in the middle of it with his shades on, his shirt mostly unbuttoned, and his arms outstretched like a bird of prey swooping down from the heavens. And when Cheap Trick’s “I Want You to Want Me” came over the speakers, Grunts looked at me and lost himself in the tune.<br />
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<a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-9Eq3eAD38Tk/WUiWujcJkfI/AAAAAAAAYEA/E5TwYmk_4kQWCP2D9xyjfEW6MT1u655pQCLcBGAs/s1600/CWsBb5DWsAE6XNO.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="776" data-original-width="600" height="200" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-9Eq3eAD38Tk/WUiWujcJkfI/AAAAAAAAYEA/E5TwYmk_4kQWCP2D9xyjfEW6MT1u655pQCLcBGAs/s200/CWsBb5DWsAE6XNO.jpg" width="155" /></a><b>Me:</b> “You’re so white.”<br />
<b>Grunts:</b> *<i>laughs</i>* “I may be a white guy, but I still hate Trump!”<br />
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One of TK’s groomsmen, “Insider,” was a former Super Bowl champion, a hulking man with arms like bridge support beams. He was the sage, measured voice of wisdom most of the weekend, the old head offering advice from someone who has seen and done it all. But even sage Super Bowl champs can get Iced, especially when the groom orders the hit. Another chug.<br />
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The reception wrapped at 10 pm; TK and Tide said goodnight to the parents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, as one after another Ubers pulled up to the Elks Lodge like choppers to a Saigon rooftop. Everyone was instructed to head back to <a href="http://daiquirishakmadeirabeach.com/" target="_blank">Daiquiri Shak</a>. <br />
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When we got there, though, I helped the bride and groom drop off some things at their apartment, which was walking distance from the bar. I gazed out over the Gulf from their beachfront balcony, while Tide took a moment to relax and TK put away the items we’d brought back. They were both ready to cut loose and truly celebrate the day without pretense. Or, as TK put it when Tide paused to ask if she should take her ID: “If they ask for my ID, I’m gonna whip my dick out. *<i>nodding to me</i>* And you can quote me.”<br />
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There’s something amazing about watching a bride walk into a bar in her wedding gown. The looks on people’s faces were somewhere between shock and joy. Everyone congratulated her, as heads snapped around from every direction. Tide had to feel like a celebrity; I felt like part of her entourage. <br />
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We headed for the deck, and were soon joined by various wedding guests who had been drinking inside. As I stood at the bar ordering us a round, I struck up a conversation with three strangers: a couple and a cute friend of the wife. [<i>It’s really amazing how frequently this happens, and each time it begins with some unsolicited question/comment about my height.</i>] Before my beers had even been served, I was posing for a picture with them. Later in the night they would get Ton in on the act, too, as the cute friend requested that my buddy pick her up for a photo.<br />
<br />
<a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-5NMRSIT8O7g/WUiZvZ74YxI/AAAAAAAAYEM/hDJPHXObDXIudgP8qMDlzM9BvG9L97RSQCLcBGAs/s1600/il_340x270.1257373287_pkoa.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="270" data-original-width="340" height="159" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-5NMRSIT8O7g/WUiZvZ74YxI/AAAAAAAAYEM/hDJPHXObDXIudgP8qMDlzM9BvG9L97RSQCLcBGAs/s200/il_340x270.1257373287_pkoa.jpg" width="200" /></a>The bride, too, was beloved by cameras. My favorite picture of the weekend came while she stood at the railing of the deck, a lit cigar dangling between her fingers, a Bud Light within arm’s reach, and an air of confidence radiating from her as her eyes lock on something in the distance. In another picture, she leisure poses while being held aloft by the arms of TK, Ton, and me.<br />
<br />
Inside the bar, madness reigned. <br />
<ul><li>Tiger Blood and Shafe were vying for the attention of the maid of honor, Tide’s sister, who wasn’t interested in either of them. It was like watching two salmon race each other up a frozen stream.</li>
<li>Insider was dying to break free from the confines of his tuxedo, and removed everything but his pants and the Nike Pro tank top he was using as an undershirt.</li>
<li>Balls’ bachelorette party friend had come out yet again, and she seemed entertained watching the chaos around her.</li>
<li>Tiger Blood got a lead on someone who could sell him some coke, and asked me if I “party.”</li>
<li>Grunts’ wife, all of 5’5” and 100 lbs, put on Insider’s tux vest—which fit her like a dress—and danced around.</li>
<li>Insider, meanwhile, arm-wrestled all comers, including Tiger Blood and the maid of honor.</li>
<li>Tiger Blood explained, "You've never really done coke until you've done it off a stripper's ass."</li>
<li>Grunts’ wife climbed up on a pool table to dance around, to the horror of her husband, who pulled her back down.</li>
<li>Tide and TK made an early exit, to get to the final wedding tradition. Or, as the groom so finely put it, “She’s gonna be shorter in the morning.”<br />
</li>
</ul><a href="https://media.giphy.com/media/3o7TKVZ9pDTh2ZZ4Dm/giphy.gif" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://media.giphy.com/media/3o7TKVZ9pDTh2ZZ4Dm/giphy.gif" width="200" height="110" data-original-width="480" data-original-height="264" /></a>Absent from all of this was Dupa. By all accounts he had been in the bar when everyone first arrived, and Mrs. Ton even managed to get a picture of him standing near the pool tables with his pants around his ankles. But not long after, he pulled an Irish goodbye. Gone without a trace, before the bride and groom had even appeared.<br />
<br />
In the end, it seemed like a perfect tribute to the day. There really can’t be a better gift for the bride and groom than the knowledge that their wedding was too much for Dupa to handle. The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-3506709889368379102017-06-15T21:56:00.000-07:002018-02-08T19:40:21.477-08:00The Sunshine State [Day 2]<a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-yMVjs1GcpBg/WUNObKC-6uI/AAAAAAAAX-s/SmZ-bsOBev0nQ18LIZiW5UWyvVAork2agCLcBGAs/s1600/1f4dab958108688855dc192df6912b02.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="450" data-original-width="600" height="375" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-yMVjs1GcpBg/WUNObKC-6uI/AAAAAAAAX-s/SmZ-bsOBev0nQ18LIZiW5UWyvVAork2agCLcBGAs/s400/1f4dab958108688855dc192df6912b02.png" width="500" /></a><br />
<b><i>Friday, May 26</i></b><br />
<br />
I awoke in a panic, as I wandered from room to room in the dark, looking for a bathroom. I opened a door and found a closet. Behind another door and I found Dupa snoring in his bed. After what felt like hours, I realized I was in our condo. In Florida. And I was really, <i>really</i> hungover.<br />
<br />
Lucidity was slowly reacquainting itself with me. I was missing my left sock. A wad of ones sat on my dresser. I vaguely remembered <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2017/06/the-sunshine-state-intro-and-day-1.html" target="_blank">vomiting in a parking lot</a>. I made a mental note to check my shoes and shorts later for collateral damage. [<i>Note: Not a spot on them! It’s almost as if I’ve done this before.</i>]<br />
<br />
I felt a tinge of embarrassment. Any guy does when he’s thrown up in front of his buddies. When you’re <i>that</i> guy, you feel like you’ve let everyone down. I found the bathroom, flipped up the seat, and as I pissed I realized that there were flecks of something all around the bowl.<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-lGYNi4G-EfE/WUNPynAktTI/AAAAAAAAX-0/dONswkgpI5IzYoLEMaZ49tLngplLOgF2ACLcBGAs/s1600/mVbWyQh.gif" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="271" data-original-width="390" height="139" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-lGYNi4G-EfE/WUNPynAktTI/AAAAAAAAX-0/dONswkgpI5IzYoLEMaZ49tLngplLOgF2ACLcBGAs/s200/mVbWyQh.gif" width="200" /></a></div>“<i>Dupa hurled, too.</i>” Then my struggling brain fully processed this information. “<i>I’m not the only one.</i>” A sizeable grin spread across my face as I washed my hands and hobbled back to bed. <br />
<br />
A couple of hours later, I was still the only one in the condo awake. I’d showered and shaved before Dupa shuffled into the living room, plopped down in the leather armchair, and joined me in watching tv.<br />
<br />
<b>Me:</b> “Did you vomit last night?”<br />
<b>Dupa:</b> “I’ll clean it up.”<br />
<b>Me:</b> “I did too, in the parking lot outside the strip club.”<br />
<b>Dupa:</b> “Ha! I didn’t even make it inside. As soon as I got out of the Uber I ordered one of my own.”<br />
<br />
The same driver who had dropped us off had taken the request, and swung back around to pick him up. Then he had to talk to Dupa the whole way to the condo to keep my Polish comrade from throwing up right there in the car.<br />
<br />
We’re both adults, by the way.<br />
<br />
Ton had texted me around 9 a.m. to ask if we wanted to go fishing with the rest of the boys. It took me until 12:30 to respond, but I’d wager he knew my answer well before that. It hardly mattered anyways, since their fishing boat encountered engine trouble shortly into the trip, and they had to head back for land. A Snapchat video of Ton, TK, Balls, and Tiger Blood smiling and partying as the boat charged out into the Gulf was immediately followed by a subdued one of them puttering back shortly thereafter. <br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-axzuuS_J1wE/WUNRQzOPweI/AAAAAAAAX_A/c0c5tz2V4AAmz0sVnq5kDok5VHP15kiYQCLcBGAs/s1600/e3b25e7f463305275f3ade4f255186b3.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="736" data-original-width="736" height="200" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-axzuuS_J1wE/WUNRQzOPweI/AAAAAAAAX_A/c0c5tz2V4AAmz0sVnq5kDok5VHP15kiYQCLcBGAs/s200/e3b25e7f463305275f3ade4f255186b3.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>About an hour later Dupa and I were meeting up with the guys at Bubba Gump’s. Just being out in the sunshine on a deck overlooking the bay was doing wonders for me. I couldn’t say the same for TK, who sat opposite me at the table, looking shell-shocked. Our waitress, upon first seating him, had unabashedly commented, “You look terrible.” It was an astute observation. <br />
<br />
Hemsworth, for the record, hadn’t even made it out of his hotel bed. When Ton texted him about lunch, his full response was, “No.”<br />
<br />
Catching up on how everyone else’s night had ended was a therapy session in and of itself. <br />
<ul><li>TK gave the full account of making it rain: <br />
<br />
Tiger Blood handed him $100 in ones and they walked over to the edge of a stage. He then told the dancer to spin on the pole.<br />
<br />
<b>Dancer:</b> “No.”<br />
<b>Tiger Blood:</b> “I’m paying you money. Get on the pole so we can make it rain on you.”<br />
<b>Dancer:</b> “No.”<br />
<b>Tiger Blood:</b> *<i>to TK</i>* “Fuck this bitch, we’re not giving her shit. We’ll spend our money on the next dancer. *<i>a moment passes</i>* Fuck it. *<i>tosses dollars in the air and walks away</i>*”<br />
<br />
</li>
<li>Ton, meanwhile, had a different kind of difficulty with a woman.<br />
<br />
<b>Me:</b> “Did I imagine it, or was Mrs. Ton there?”<br />
<b>Ton:</b> “She was there. I didn’t want her to come out, because I knew we’d end up getting into a fight. And I was right.”<br />
<br />
</li>
<li><a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-slq4XNY8_bs/WUNZ6eAXeEI/AAAAAAAAX_g/9PJiD_w5E0EQFbcMCivBGT7NJWTOfSTGQCLcBGAs/s1600/hoz.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1030" height="200" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-slq4XNY8_bs/WUNZ6eAXeEI/AAAAAAAAX_g/9PJiD_w5E0EQFbcMCivBGT7NJWTOfSTGQCLcBGAs/s200/hoz.jpg" width="172" /></a>Tiger Blood called an escort service when he got back to his hotel room. But he got tired of trying to negotiate a reasonable price, so he gave up on it and went to bed.<br />
<br />
</li>
</ul>We inhaled tall drinks, fried seafood platters, sandwiches, and burgers. Dupa and I had arrived later, and our food orders were about 10 minutes behind everyone else’s. I claimed Ton’s burger for myself as it was delivered to the table, without a second thought or a shred of a fuck given. Bachelor party hangovers are an every-man-for-himself blood sport.<br />
<br />
After lunch Tiger Blood and I were talking to a cashier and the manager. When we told them that we’d been out for our friend’s bachelor party the prior night, the manager said, “Ah, so you guys went hard last night.” Then, pointing at me, she added, “I can tell.”<br />
<br />
Still, we were the only two interested in doing a bit more day drinking, and we walked to Hooters for a beer [<i>…and maybe in futile hopes of running into Svana again</i>]. The groom, Ton, and Balls left to prepare for the rehearsal dinner. Dupa went back to the condo to sleep more. <br />
<br />
He awoke a couple of hours later, ambling out to the living room to find me watching <i>River Monsters</i>. Our friend Shafe arrived in town and had immediately begun texting Dupa, who told him we’d meet him at the bar in 30 minutes. Two hours later we strolled into <a href="http://thehutbarandgrill.com/" target="_blank">The Hut Bar and Grill</a>, and found Shafe pounding <a href="http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bud%20heavy" target="_blank">Bud Heavies</a> with a chip on his shoulder. <br />
<br />
The Hut was my kind of place. Right on the water, live music, an engaging bartender, and hard-hitting Hurricanes. I put back four with dinner, while Dupa did five and a LandShark, and Shafe drained Bud bottles like an ancient Aztec priest performing sacrifices on the steps of a temple. In other words, things were just like you’d expect them to be.<br />
<br />
<a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-AdjKpK5cyLA/WUNbWTy9LKI/AAAAAAAAX_o/DQZaofG7M2AQEhmJDhLs2k9gSOdB-Rt_ACLcBGAs/s1600/daiquiri-shak-raw-bar.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-AdjKpK5cyLA/WUNbWTy9LKI/AAAAAAAAX_o/DQZaofG7M2AQEhmJDhLs2k9gSOdB-Rt_ACLcBGAs/s200/daiquiri-shak-raw-bar.jpg" width="200" height="150" data-original-width="550" data-original-height="412" /></a>When the rehearsal dinner ended, the participants headed for <a href="http://daiquirishakmadeirabeach.com/" target="_blank">Daiquiri Shak</a> and instructed us to do the same. When we got there, we found them to have largely taken over the deck in front of the building. We grabbed seats at a nearby table, ordered ourselves beers, and jumped right into the flow. And I got some face time with my favorite University of Alabama alum (sorry <a href="https://cdn3.vox-cdn.com/thumbor/iw1OXp9AGMohbv8E8pB4Xw9goOI=/cdn0.vox-cdn.com/uploads/chorus_asset/file/4196293/coopered.0.gif" target="_blank">Amari</a>, you’ll have to settle for second).<br />
<br />
Tide was tipsy, and had the look of a woman both relieved everything was finally happening and stressed that it wasn’t all over yet. Still, relief seemed to be her dominating emotion, as she kicked back with some beers and entertained us. Inevitably, she delivered the quote of the night.<br />
<br />
<b>Tide:</b> “I told my mom, ‘I can’t wait to finally have sex!’ She rolled her eyes and said, ‘<i>Oh shut up.</i>’ I have a past life; I used to be a bit of a hoe…”<br />
<br />
A random local from a table near ours made her presence known. Blonde, 40+, and wearing her standard-issue Florida jorts, she jumped up and did her best embarrassing-aunt-at-the-family-picnic dance. Not the least bit apologetic, she explained to us, “It’s Friday. You’ve gotta let loose!”<br />
<br />
My immediate reaction was, “She’s the female version of Dupa.” I can’t honestly remember if I was the first one of us to say it, though, because Mrs. Ton and Tide both made the same observation. We may have all said it simultaneously. Dupa saw it too. He stared in awe, occasionally putting the corner of his phone in his mouth for lack of a verbal reaction. I know the man well, and those are the telltale signs of him being flummoxed. <br />
<br />
Our group was soon joined by four of the girls from the bachelorette party we’d met at CJ’s the night prior. Balls had made a connection with one of the bridesmaids, and invited her and her friends to come hang. It occurred to me for the first time that they were all blonde. And hot. And, as often happens when you have four beautiful young blondes at your table, we suddenly had a douchey pest hovering around us.<br />
<br />
<a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-jRzPQVk2zwg/WUNdWCcXi9I/AAAAAAAAX_0/wohQaoQM4Vsp3YbieW7JXbudPp330BMOwCLcBGAs/s1600/jc1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-jRzPQVk2zwg/WUNdWCcXi9I/AAAAAAAAX_0/wohQaoQM4Vsp3YbieW7JXbudPp330BMOwCLcBGAs/s200/jc1.jpg" height="120" data-original-width="454" data-original-height="607" /></a>Looking like the least popular member of a boy band [<i>“JC Nahsez?” “FuckBoy?” Yeah, let’s go with FuckBoy.</i>], he interjected himself into our consciousness by making an unsolicited response to one of our comments. As we paused to ask ourselves “<i>Who the fuck is this guy?</i>” he zeroed in on the blondes, grabbing a chair and pulling it over close to two of them.<br />
<br />
We shrugged off the intrusion, figuring he was the girls’ burden to bear. But when he disappeared for a moment, we asked them what his deal was. “I don’t know,” one of them said. “He’s annoying.” When he came back around, the ladies gave him a cold shoulder. He tried to save face by buddying up to my boy Billy, who in turn told him, “You should probably just walk away.” FuckBoy reluctantly accepted his fate, and extended his hand in my direction, looking for a handshake. I just stared at him.<br />
<br />
<b>FuckBoy:</b> “You’re not going to shake my hand?”<br />
<b>Me:</b> “Nah.”<br />
<br />
I think he yelled “fuck you” or something as he walked away, I don’t know. He didn’t matter. <br />
<br />
We resumed our various conversations and drinking. With the next day being a big one, though, most of us started clearing out around 1 a.m. I was one of them, strolling off down the street—our condo was only a block away. And I hummed a tune as I did. <br />
<br />
After all, it was Friday. You’ve gotta let loose.The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-59986976662164369132017-06-13T21:12:00.000-07:002018-02-08T19:38:50.049-08:00The Sunshine State [Intro and Day 1]<a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-3HbzDcCTc_w/WUCv6Bdi2yI/AAAAAAAAX1w/nTK71xrVoUsyosqd98iDzBpkRnfBnOFrQCLcBGAs/s1600/beach-wedding-bridal-bouquets.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="433" data-original-width="650" height="332.5" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-3HbzDcCTc_w/WUCv6Bdi2yI/AAAAAAAAX1w/nTK71xrVoUsyosqd98iDzBpkRnfBnOFrQCLcBGAs/s400/beach-wedding-bridal-bouquets.jpg" width="500" /></a><br />
I’ve come to learn that, in life, a little success is a dangerous thing. <br />
<br />
Five years ago, I attended the wedding of my friends Ton and Mrs. Ton. The occasion, <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2012/05/country-grammar.html" target="_blank">as I said in the ensuing blog</a>, was as close to perfect as I’d ever seen a wedding get. The presence of an insane amount of alcohol and zero amount of dress code, in a barn deep in Ohio farmland, meant the dial was cranked to “lit”—maybe the only time that’s ever been true of a barn.<br />
<br />
That blog enjoyed a brief moment of fame. The happy couple shared it with their relatives and friends, and On the Rocks’ page hits soared to a level rarely seen without the involvement of a half-naked Playboy Playmate.<br />
<br />
The best man at that wedding was TK. The following year he met a beautiful, charismatic little maniac of his own. He brought her to Pittsburgh that summer, and seconds after being introduced to “Tide,” she and I were best friends. Despite her being <a href="https://youtu.be/vR7s2m5Z5GA" target="_blank">an Alabama grad, and me a lifelong Auburn fan</a>. Despite us not being in the same location again until the night before their wedding, four years later. Homies. 4. Life.<br />
<a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-MmUrOxedOnQ/WUCt37SfTpI/AAAAAAAAX1o/1TuPJCoIKwIKkoqtdzPCl1hlem_0PpwYACLcBGAs/s1600/Screenshot_20170602-003256.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1600" data-original-width="900" height="160" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-MmUrOxedOnQ/WUCt37SfTpI/AAAAAAAAX1o/1TuPJCoIKwIKkoqtdzPCl1hlem_0PpwYACLcBGAs/s200/Screenshot_20170602-003256.png" /></a><br />
In planning her wedding, Tide took cues from the stories she had heard about Ton’s. The location would be unconventional: on the beach in St. Pete, where the couple met and lived. The abundance of alcohol would be measured, targeted, and then intentionally exceeded. The dress code would be non-existent, and she encouraged Dupa to let his creativity take the wheel. And she ever-so-subtly hinted that she wanted me to blog about the event.<br />
<br />
I did my best to casually dissuade her from expecting the dust to be blown off my keyboard. Life had moved me away from the carefree days of scribing tales of drunken adventures. Respectability had crept up my walls and <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2016/05/strike-up-band.html" target="_blank">rendered me unrecognizable</a> behind tangled, ivy-like swaths of adulthood. I spent my workday combing through business plans, not internet articles about blotto <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/search/label/Rummy%20Award" target="_blank">Rummy Award</a> candidates. I was out of the game. A ghost. A minor footnote on a long-forgotten page of a book buried in a time capsule.<br />
<br />
Then, as TK and I tossed back shots at his bachelor party, he said he wanted my wedding gift to be a blog about his nuptials. <br />
<br />
…Fuck.<br />
<br />
<br />
<a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-W80k6Sc8p1A/WUCyJLQwT4I/AAAAAAAAX14/d6H-W7JjtKYz27WIoUlRGkOD5jR0lUamwCLcBGAs/s1600/airplane-landing.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-W80k6Sc8p1A/WUCyJLQwT4I/AAAAAAAAX14/d6H-W7JjtKYz27WIoUlRGkOD5jR0lUamwCLcBGAs/s400/airplane-landing.jpg" width="500" height="333.75" data-original-width="1280" data-original-height="853" /></a><br />
<b><i>Thursday, May 25</i></b><br />
<br />
I landed in Tampa for the first time since 2012 (ironically, the year of Ton’s wedding). A couple from my flight, who had seemed perfectly calm until that point, took five steps out into the humid air outside of baggage claim and began yelling at each other, while strangers like me watched. Florida’s crazy is an airborne virus.<br />
<br />
I texted Dupa, my roommate for the weekend, as my Lyft ride cruised away from the airport. He had landed an hour or so before me and was, of course, already at the bar. So, when I got to the condo we had rented on Airbnb, I dropped my bag, changed into a pair of shorts, and headed out to catch up. A frozen margarita with a Modelo Especial floater was waiting for me when I arrived at the waterfront location.<br />
<br />
After dinner, we found Ton—who was returning the favor by serving as TK’s best man—and two other groomsmen at Hooters, just up the boardwalk. Before long the man of honor and Balls, another groomsman, arrived to officially kick off the bachelor party. We caught up in the way old friends with new lives do, cold beer and big laughs punctuating each sentence. A beautiful brunette by the name of Svana, wearing innocent glasses over <i>I-might-be-crazier-than-you-think</i> eyes, was our beer concierge. She provided us with a steady supply of Corona and Modelo buckets, walking up to our table seemingly each time someone in our group was finishing a highly contextualized sentence.<br />
<br />
<b>One of us:</b> “…and I get a text from him saying, ‘Be right back. Just tore my ass.’”<br />
<b>Svana:</b> *<i>stands there blinking</i>*<br />
<br />
Some members of the party were Cavs fans, intently watching Game 5 of the NBA Eastern Conference Finals. Others, such as myself, were Pens fans, intently watching Game 7 of the NHL Eastern Conference Finals. With the latter headed towards a late finish and Hooters closing, we moved our collective to a bar called <a href="https://www.cjsontheisland.com/" target="_blank">CJ’s on the Island</a>. <br />
<a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-D8tiuFX_tdY/WUC0QAqYi-I/AAAAAAAAX2A/LFGnA46YHZYQgN0_YmHrhdpKFzyYRMG4ACLcBGAs/s1600/teeth-dirty-old-man1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-D8tiuFX_tdY/WUC0QAqYi-I/AAAAAAAAX2A/LFGnA46YHZYQgN0_YmHrhdpKFzyYRMG4ACLcBGAs/s200/teeth-dirty-old-man1.jpg" width="200" height="159" data-original-width="610" data-original-height="486" /></a><br />
The Pens fans gravitated towards a giant projection screen in the back of the bar. There we found that the game was being closely followed by a bachelorette party, a lively group of 20-something gals from Pittsburgh. One of them had even graduated from the same high school as I did—albeit 10 years later. *<i>sigh</i>*<br />
<br />
I’d reached that special stage of the night, when you’re never without a drink in your hand, but you have little to no idea what you’re drinking, or how you obtained it. I do know that at one point, as my head swam with (beer and) euphoria and relief from the Pens’ overtime win, I stood at the bar talking to someone when a voice called out over the speaker system.<br />
<br />
“♫<i>Defi’s a bitch</i>…♫”<br />
<br />
I turned to find Dupa smiling at me from a nearby stage, with a mic in his hand and five bachelorettes in pink shirts crammed around him and a karaoke machine.<br />
<br />
I shook my head and returned to my regularly-scheduled drunk.<br />
<br />
I took comfort in not being the drunkest among us, though. Our boy “Hemsworth” had been rocked from about an hour into our stay at Hooters. At one point, he appeared before Ton with a lollipop in his mouth.<br />
<a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-hWShe2g79eY/WUC002tCiYI/AAAAAAAAX2E/FWAe0oP6Us8zFrFjsELPlVTdn700ml5mgCLcBGAs/s1600/5741374800_1845748dca.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-hWShe2g79eY/WUC002tCiYI/AAAAAAAAX2E/FWAe0oP6Us8zFrFjsELPlVTdn700ml5mgCLcBGAs/s200/5741374800_1845748dca.jpg" width="150" data-original-width="450" data-original-height="299" /></a><br />
<b>Ton:</b> “Where’d you get the sucker, buddy?”<br />
<b>Hemsworth:</b> “The nice man in the bathroom gave me this.”<br />
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CJ’s doesn’t have a bathroom attendant.<br />
<br />
Our next stop was Mermaids, a strip club (because of course). But how we transitioned there is a question I can’t answer, since I remember none of it. Not the conversation about going, not leaving CJ’s, not the Uber ride. And I don’t remember feeling queasy upon arrival. But I do remember unceremoniously hunching over and hurling in the club’s parking lot. <br />
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It was as though I’d stepped out of the car and found God waiting there to sucker punch me in the stomach. Ton patted me on the back while beer, margarita, shots, and my self-respect evacuated me under the dim street lights. Then I stood up, took a breath, and into the club we went.<br />
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I was, as one might imagine, not in the best frame of mind for a strip club. I tried my best to participate, swigging back a few beers while trying to shake off my advanced state of “wrecked.” Mrs. Ton seemed to materialize from out of nowhere, and she and others tried to nurse me back to health. Our buddy, “Tiger Blood” [<i>he was the Charlie Sheen-est thing since Charlie Sheen that weekend, as you’ll soon see</i>], handed me a wad of 20 fresh $1 bills to make it rain on a dancer. I threw them without loosening the wad first, and the bulk of the bills smacked her in the rib with a thud. I think that was the moment when I decided I needed to leave.<br />
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<a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-9DNEKx8YnWY/WUC2IuSYxwI/AAAAAAAAX2I/MQUYGMOLwYAkMRNaT1V2d5kiuK_P0p2ZgCLcBGAs/s1600/keep-calm-and-make-it-rain-16.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-9DNEKx8YnWY/WUC2IuSYxwI/AAAAAAAAX2I/MQUYGMOLwYAkMRNaT1V2d5kiuK_P0p2ZgCLcBGAs/s200/keep-calm-and-make-it-rain-16.png" width="171" height="200" data-original-width="600" data-original-height="700" /></a>As my Uber pulled away from Mermaids, I got a text from TK. “I just made it rain!” <br />
<br />
It’s a minor miracle I guided the driver back to the correct location. And another one that I remembered the security code to the front door. Dupa had disappeared while we were at Mermaids; as I stumbled through the condo in the direction of my bedroom, I saw his closed bedroom door and let out a “Ha!” Then I crashed into my bed and gave in to the darkness. Day One in Florida was a wrap. The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-83270571643642537882017-06-07T20:30:00.000-07:002017-06-07T20:30:50.369-07:00Always Rummy in PhiladelphiaFrom <a href="http://www.phillymag.com/news/2017/06/05/phl-17-helium-comedy-club-colleen-campbell/#Igl7WdOqsZyA8q11.99" target="_blank">Philadelphia Magazine</a>:<br />
<blockquote>You know that feeling you get after you do something really, really stupid, when you wish that you’d wake up and realize that it was all just a bad dream? Well, we’re pretty sure that’s exactly what PHL 17 on-air talent Colleen Campbell is feeling today.<br />
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According to New York City comic Wil Sylvince, who was also at Helium on Sunday, Campbell was asked to leave the club because she was being loud during the show. (Helium wouldn’t comment on what happened.) And it was once she left the club that her problems really began.<br />
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As Sylvince’s video shows, an incredibly even-tempered Philadelphia police officer shows up and tries to get her to just go home. Instead, she attempts to spit in someone’s face and then goes off in a big way on the cop.</blockquote><br />
When viewing this footage on TJ's Facebook page, I had three thoughts:<br />
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1. I'm glad I don't date anymore. Because this is exactly the kind of trainwreck I'd tie myself to.<br />
2. Dupa and I were just talking about hanging out in Philly; maybe we should look her up if we do...<br />
2a. <i>No! Stop it! No. NO.</i><br />
3. White privilege.<br />
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<center><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="281" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/iFFHJStIdKk" width="500"></iframe></center>The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-68640531804573066892016-05-12T22:54:00.003-07:002016-05-17T21:43:01.959-07:00Strike up the Band?<a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-dX_ih5H8l98/VzVqWeB_ZjI/AAAAAAAAUvc/6awNoP0JcEU_uppD8HRYfbHPNlbIGHedwCLcB/s1600/ruins-02.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-dX_ih5H8l98/VzVqWeB_ZjI/AAAAAAAAUvc/6awNoP0JcEU_uppD8HRYfbHPNlbIGHedwCLcB/s400/ruins-02.jpg" width="500" /></a><br />
I need a whiskey stipend. I get paid well enough and all, but… What’s wrong with getting an extra $100—after taxes—each paycheck, that's devoted specifically to a good bottle of whiskey? Not a damn thing that I can see.<br />
<br />
*<i>blows dust off bar stool</i>*<br />
<br />
*<i>pulls it out and plops down</i>*<br />
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If anyone out there is reading this; no, you’re not seeing a ghost. I’m still around. I miss this place. TJ mentioned our old Rummy awards the other day, and my mind traced way back to 10 months ago when those were still a thing. Good times.<br />
<br />
I think you can actually guess what happened [<i>Well, if you’re over 30 you can; if you’re younger than that…god bless. You have no idea how things both simultaneously speed up and slow down in the years ahead. It really, really sucks a rhino’s ass.</i>]: Life got me. <br />
<br />
No, I’m not married. Or engaged. Or in a relationship. And no, no kids. I always thought those were the harbingers of the misery people older than me seemed to be in. But they’re just accessories to the crime. The real villain? Complacency. <br />
<br />
I’ve grown accustomed to everything in my daily life. Wake up. Play Angry Birds. Get showered. Brush teeth. Shave (maybe). Go to work. Work. Yell at a computer screen. Work. Hate life. Come home. TV/video games. Brush teeth. Go to bed. Repeat.<br />
<br />
Notice that writing isn’t nestled anywhere in there?<br />
<br />
Writing is my true love. If life were a movie, writing would be the girl next door who I was cool with my whole life, messed around with in college, and then didn’t realize until my early adulthood that I truly had feelings for. We never really could find a way to put our differences aside and make it official between us. She stood by me through good times and bad; but, as time marched on and life—as it always does—got more complicated, I neglected her. And, heartbroken, she left. <br />
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I want us to be together, writing. Forever, and truly. But I’ve got to get my shit together. We both know it. And holding you back while I do that, it’s just not fair to you. So here we are, standing in the rain. Me with my 2010 Dell Insperion keyboard. You with your empty blog fields. Why can’t we just make it all right? Why can’t we make it happen?<br />
<br />
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<br />
…By the way, if you’re wondering where all of this is going, and why it’s gone where it has, then just let me say I’m in the same boat. Where are we? What day is it?<br />
<br />
Okay, I’ll stop f’ing around with you now. The bottom line is that my drinking stories have stopped because I’m too tired/lazy/malcontent to type and publish them. The blog, as a whole, has stopped, because I can’t <strike>be bothered to</strike> squeeze time into my daily schedule to post things. <br />
<br />
Look, I don’t want this site to die. Maybe it’s just my penchant for holding onto the past (don’t know if you’ve picked up on that from my having a blog specifically dedicated to my drinking stories…), but this site has been a big part of my life for eight plus years. When it first started in 2007, I thought that by 2016 we’d be the next BuzzFeed. We were SO close. I blame TJ, really.<br />
<br />
TJ. He made an offhand remark months ago about me dragging out this site’s life for longer than I should have. Well, contrary to <i>his</i> understanding of the world, I don’t have to conform to his personal qualms with the world around him. The fact that his social and economic dynamics don’t allow him to allow himself expression through written word, and through sharing stories about his past/present, is a sad one. But it has no bearing on whether my social and economic dynamics do the same to me. So, as much as I love the man like a Jewish brother neither of my parents can comfortably explain, his opinion on this particular matter means jack shit to me. <br />
<br />
And let no one think that it caused my withdrawal from Crooked Straight. I read it, brushed it off, and kept moving. But life… Life got me.<br />
<br />
Maybe I’ll find my way back. Over a year ago, The Hero basically bequeathed the site to me. So it’s future, if there is one, is in my hands. And all I can tell you at this moment is: I don’t know. The first step would have to involve quitting my job. At a minimum, a change in the management structure at said job would have to happen. The second step might have to involve a winning PowerBall ticket. Of course, then I’d probably be too busy cruising the Mediterranean with my wife, <a href="http://crookedstraight.blogspot.com/2014/08/tail-report-hiromi-oshima.html" target="_blank">Hiromi Oshima</a>, on our mega yacht… <br />
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I’d probably hire TJ to type up blog posts for me, though.The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-66988211455395398082015-10-14T10:54:00.000-07:002015-10-14T10:54:30.057-07:00SumumabitchThank you Nathaniel Rateliff & the Night Sweats, for creating On The Rocks' official theme song.<br />
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<br />
...Actually, I'm really just jealous of Justin. Jill is beautiful, cool as hell, drinks whiskey, and...SHE HAS THE WORD "SIP" RIGHT IN HER LAST NAME! Justin, man, please tell me you took her name!<br />
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</center>The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-6387503361284371802015-09-12T21:17:00.000-07:002015-09-12T21:17:38.565-07:00Relationship Goals (Part 1)I've got friends who love sex. I've got friends who will tell you how much they love sex, and how desperate they are to have sex. Immediately. In that very moment. Like someone, anyone, please swipe all of the bottles off the top of this bar and have sex with me on it.<br />
<br />
...And those friends are women.<br />
<br />
The female libido is a dangerous, ravenous wild animal. So I understand Kimberly Jackson, and her struggle. From <a href="http://www.playboy.com/articles/woman-explains-sex-with-unconscious-man-public" target="_blank">Playboy</a>:<br />
<blockquote>It was just your average day in a Norfolk, Virginia strip mall parking lot before some woman mounted an unconscious man and began having sex with him in public.<br />
<br />
The woman at the center of it all is 36-year-old Kimberly Jackson, who was caught on camera mid-romp with her boyfriend as he lay on the ground passed out. When Jackson spoke to a reporter, she explained that this all happened because she was “drunk and horny.”</blockquote><br />
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</center>The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-35262305316416577442015-09-04T01:25:00.000-07:002015-09-08T15:46:40.746-07:00I Hate Pak (...and Myself)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-5Oj2RCl-lac/VelEeOw3qgI/AAAAAAAAT-4/R1UwPoPJmfM/s1600/hate_love.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-5Oj2RCl-lac/VelEeOw3qgI/AAAAAAAAT-4/R1UwPoPJmfM/s400/hate_love.jpg" width="500" /></a></div><br />
Some years ago, I started a recurring joke on <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi" target="_blank">Twitter</a>, tweeting “<a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/536192381415329792" target="_blank">#IHatePak</a>”. “Pak,” of course, is my homie <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/search?q=pakistanimal&max-results=20&by-date=true" target="_blank">Pakistanimal</a>. Loud, audacious, calamitous… And that’s when he’s stone sober. Get him hammered—or, more often than not, sit back and watch him get himself hammered—and those personality traits ratchet up to unsafe levels.<br />
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I don’t <i>truly</i> hate the man. He’s one of my closest and most trusted friends. But I do hate how every single night at the bar with him turns into one of the worst hangovers I’ve ever experienced the next morning. And that’s not exaggeration for hyperbole’s sake; I cannot name one single, solitary instance when, the morning after he and I were hanging out at a bar, I didn’t feel like a bus full of overweight circus clowns had hit me. Because shots.<br />
<br />
So, I hate Pak. <i>Blah, blah, blah, I’m a grown man, and can choose not to participate in the bukkake of Fireball shots, blah.</i> Whatever. I hate Pak.<br />
<br />
I hate him even more because one Saturday in August, as I lay on my couch at 20 after nine, content with a boring, stay-at-home night, his name appeared on the screen of my ringing phone. And because he wanted to go out drinking. And because, when I said there was a <a href="https://jam.eventscff.org/" target="_blank">Jam on Walnut</a> happening up the street from me, he said, “<a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/635272951001169920" target="_blank">I’ll be there by 10</a>.”<br />
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An hour later, we dapped each other up on the sidewalk in front of my apartment building. The pause was brief—long enough for him to hand me his car keys for the night—as we then began striding purposefully in the direction of the Jam. Halfway along that journey, we met Annie.<br />
<br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-X4n5CvWdBOI/VelJiZyb0cI/AAAAAAAAT_I/LTROnJMMVgQ/s1600/Making-New-Friends.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="133" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-X4n5CvWdBOI/VelJiZyb0cI/AAAAAAAAT_I/LTROnJMMVgQ/s200/Making-New-Friends.jpg" width="200" /></a>To be more accurate, Annie met us. She was a cute, younger blonde girl of medium height, walking in a group of people ahead of us on the sidewalk. As Pak and I bs’d, she abruptly spun around and said, “Mi—oh. Hi, gentlemen.” My Pakistani friend’s voice, she said, sounded just like that of someone she’d met earlier in the night, and she thought it was him walking behind her. <br />
<br />
Smiling and bubbly, Annie was fresh from Grand Rapids, MI. As in, she had just moved to Pittsburgh <i>that</i> morning. So when she realized that the voices behind her were two large, unknown brown men, she didn’t hastily retreat. Instead she introduced herself and hugged each of us. Annie just wanted as many new friends as possible.<br />
<br />
As we accompanied her up the sidewalk, she asked for pointers about living in Pittsburgh, and in Shadyside specifically. While giving her a few tidbits to hold onto, I looked down and caught sight of her shaky footwork. Annie was struggling. With every step of her right foot, she stumbled over the low walls, stones, fences, shrubbery, etc. that delineated front yards from public walkway. She somehow kept her balance and happy demeanor, despite the constant bumbles. <br />
<br />
And, let’s remember: she was walking <i>towards</i> the Jam. We caught up with her friends and then moved on without Annie. <br />
<br />
Late August is a time of renewal in my neighborhood, as twentysomethings starting grad school or their first adult jobs <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/632638609263362049" target="_blank">have moved in</a>, replacing the residents who’ve moved on to the house with a white picket fence in the suburbs. A big, new world is opening up for these fresh faces, faster than they know what’s happening, and the fear and excitement is alive in their eyes. Pak and I slowly waded through the high tide of youth and freedom, past the games of cornhole and beer pong, past the beer stands and sleeveless bros, past the band on stage rocking out in front of a sea of Annies.<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-SiHr7B97X6E/VelKHuNhFfI/AAAAAAAAT_Q/6Qflqx1xeVQ/s1600/6a00d8341c345453ef014e8bf57874970d-800wi.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="140" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-SiHr7B97X6E/VelKHuNhFfI/AAAAAAAAT_Q/6Qflqx1xeVQ/s200/6a00d8341c345453ef014e8bf57874970d-800wi.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>The one main criticism that can be made about the Jams on Walnut—it’s the one you’ll hear repeatedly when talking to people who choose not to bother with them—is that the crowds in the bars are suffocating. This is where you tend to find the age 28 to 40 segment of partiers, who’ve chosen the comfort of air conditioning as an escape from the 24-year-olds and head bands. No matter how big the crowd out on the street, you can guarantee at least as many people are inside at the bar. When Pak and I walked into <a href="http://www.eatshady.com/" target="_blank">Shady Grove</a>, we got as far as two feet past the door. <br />
<br />
After ten minutes or so of flowing with the surging throng, we ended up standing behind a guy sitting at the bar with his friend. He then turned around, looked up at me, and made it clear he didn’t want any problems, by announcing, “I don’t want any problems.” <br />
<br />
[<i>Side note, white people: You don’t have to automatically fear every black person you see.</i>]<br />
<br />
I reassured him that we didn’t either, and after some slurring and clumsy daps, he offered us his and his friend’s seats, since they were leaving. As soon as we’d sat down, Pak was ordering shots. *<i>sigh</i>*<br />
<br />
We were also flagged down by our buddy E. Bunnies, who quickly cheered from the corner of the bar, “I’ve got my mom with me!” A cute, tiny woman in her 50s poked her head through the crowd and waved with a big smile. A few minutes later, they’d made their way over to our spot at the bar.<br />
<br />
<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-bNx2zGk4-GM/VelLLnJ4WzI/AAAAAAAAT_k/rQBNwiRT4G8/s1600/Motherlover.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="112" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-bNx2zGk4-GM/VelLLnJ4WzI/AAAAAAAAT_k/rQBNwiRT4G8/s200/Motherlover.png" width="200" /></a>“You motherfuckers meet my mom!”<br />
<br />
Weak, Pak and I pointed out the ironic hilarity of that sentence to Bunnies. “Well, you’re not fucking <i>my</i> mom.”<br />
<br />
Can’t. Even.<br />
<br />
After a few minutes, they migrated out of Grove, headed towards another bar. As Pak and I talked with our friends behind the rail, we felt a little nudge between us. I turned to find one of the most strikingly beautiful women I’ve ever met, who was trying to get in position to catch a bartender’s eye. <br />
<br />
She was petite. She was half-Japanese. She was genuinely funny, and wholly unpretentious. She had big, soft brown eyes that dazzled when trained on you. She was from Cali. Her name was…well, that part’s not important. Nor is the rest, really. Because she was also engaged. <br />
<br />
“Of course,” I thought, as she mentioned her fiancé. I should’ve predicted that one. But she did buy us shots. So, you know…there’s still hope.<br />
<br />
The best thing about the Jams, without fault, is the sheer volume of women out to enjoy a summer night of music and fun. Pak’s wedding ring and my lack of fucks seemed to be attracting attention frequently. Maybe older men got it going on. Or maybe we just reminded them of their favorite uncles.<br />
<br />
A blonde, who seemed nice enough, though she failed to meet the more shallow prerequisites that so many others were acing that night, asked to make room between us to order herself a drink. Pak and I may be superficial, but we’re still gentlemen. We yielded the breach, and I called over my boy Jed—who was bartending—for her.<br />
<br />
<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-DKSZB7IlVyM/VelMqQD38GI/AAAAAAAAT_w/cSzZENh8W9M/s1600/maxresdefault.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="112" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-DKSZB7IlVyM/VelMqQD38GI/AAAAAAAAT_w/cSzZENh8W9M/s200/maxresdefault.jpg" width="200" /></a>When she’d gotten her drink and walked off again, Jed stopped by while filling another order. “I know who’s here, what’s going on. Don’t flag me down for her.” I assured I meant nothing by it, was just trying to be helpful. “She’s ordered three times now without tipping,” he explained. "Her friends too. Don’t help them.” <br />
<br />
A cute friend of the blonde stepped up between us. Brown curls. Glasses. A mischievous danger in her eye. <br />
<br />
<b>In my head:</b> “<i>Hmm, this is going to get delicate.</i>” <br />
<br />
Pak offered to buy Cute Chick a shot (he really just wanted more for us; she just happened to be in the line of fire), and they struck a deal: She’d buy a round for her friends and us, and then he’d buy a round. As a bystander looking at getting two more free shots while in the presence of a good looking woman, the arrangement sounded like a win-win.<br />
<br />
Her round was poured and distributed. We toasted and threw them back. Pak’s round was poured and distributed. We toasted and threw them back—well, most of us did. Cute Chick, instead of doing the shot, tossed it on the ground. <br />
<br />
The fuck?<br />
<br />
Pak was angry, but showed restraint by walking off to the men’s room. Laughing it off, she tried to explain to me that she didn’t want to do the shot. <br />
<br />
<b>Me:</b> “So you couldn’t hand it to someone else? Or hand it back to him?”<br />
<b>Her:</b> *<i>shoulder shrug and giggle</i>*<br />
<b>Me:</b> “You need to fuck off.”<br />
<br />
<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="113" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/gfwSuMkaYY0" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;" width="200"></iframe>The blonde eventually came over and tried to defend her friend’s actions. But she was quickly flustered by her own inability to suspend logic to the point where pouring out a shot that was bought for you, after you asked for it, wasn’t childish and inconsiderate. She gathered Cute Chick and the others and moved off.<br />
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Sadly, with them went <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/635443577821229056" target="_blank">my recollection of the rest of the night</a>. The shots got me. How ironic—brought down by the very thing I’d fought to defend.<br />
<br />
I woke up the next morning with Pak standing in my bedroom doorway, asking for his keys. Judging by my cash-less wallet and the pain in my head, we didn’t go out quietly. But we made it home in one piece. I can only hope Annie was as lucky.<br />
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I hate Pak.The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-21668056873447662262015-08-10T17:17:00.000-07:002015-08-10T20:47:56.899-07:00RegretsGo home Lena Dunham, you're drunk.<br />
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There's already one <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2015/07/my-kinda-woman.html" target="_blank">drunken, uncoordinated girl</a> in my life. I just don't have room for another.<br />
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...She gets credit for not spilling the drink, though.<br />
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The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-24926476286295599852015-07-30T20:38:00.000-07:002015-07-30T20:39:46.823-07:00My Kinda WomanThis ain't a wifey post, though. More like a "Oh hey, good morning...who are you?" post.<br />
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Love Tina Fey for this scene. <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/ThisIsWhereILeaveYou?src=hash">#ThisIsWhereILeaveYou</a> <a href="http://t.co/M0gOZvsAHq">pic.twitter.com/M0gOZvsAHq</a></div>
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<i>From <a href="https://twitter.com/Kash_dot_com" target="_blank">Jay Kash's Twitter page</a>...</i>The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-86512317137573387132015-06-10T19:26:00.001-07:002018-02-08T19:40:39.501-08:00Wherever I May Reauxm (Part 2)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-LW9Mbi-3XbU/VXjg0ZEP3oI/AAAAAAAATIk/q42fcuZ3mg4/s1600/jackson-square.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-LW9Mbi-3XbU/VXjg0ZEP3oI/AAAAAAAATIk/q42fcuZ3mg4/s400/jackson-square.jpg" width="500"></a></div><br />
[<i><a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2015/04/wherever-i-may-reauxm-part-1.html" target="_blank">Continued from Part 1</a></i>]<br />
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A blaring alarm woke me. <br />
<br />
…Well, “woke” is a bit of a misleading term. One eye opened. There’s no sure way of knowing the exact number, of course, but I’d estimate about 5% of my remaining brain cells were firing in that moment. They were merely there to record data, as well as to operate my essential organs and one eyelid. The rest—who do all of the deduction and reasoning, and who operate every other movable part of my body—were still slumbering. Or worse.<br />
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So a blaring alarm elicited the bare minimum response from me. The clock said “7:45.” “There’s no way in hell he’s getting up,” a brain cell muttered. One of T.C.’s arms swung from his bed, and a big Irish hand crashed into the clock. The sound stopped. The army of 5% lowered my eyelid. 15 minutes later the sound rang out again. My eyelids stayed shut, but this time I heard T.C. actually get out of bed. A muffled “No shit?” came from behind the closed lid.<br />
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He dressed and headed off to work-related doings. A few hours later, I also found my way from bed to shower. By about the time I’d gotten dressed and felt ready to head out into this enchanted land, T.C. came back. “I’m hurtin’,” was about all he got out before he’d crawled back into bed.<br />
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I started my exploration of this vast and diverse city…by crossing the street and walking into Walgreens. My first open container of the day was going to be a bottle of Gatorade.<br />
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<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-pKqGWS9Kb2Y/VXjkHmCoTbI/AAAAAAAATIw/qpvPym3vxqM/s1600/10941868_10153634578379606_763817108392198871_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-pKqGWS9Kb2Y/VXjkHmCoTbI/AAAAAAAATIw/qpvPym3vxqM/s200/10941868_10153634578379606_763817108392198871_n.jpg" width="113"></a>I strolled up Dauphine to Poydras. I hooked a right and went as far as Loyola, before turning right again. At Canal I went right and closed the loop, then marched on towards the riverfront. There I found myself a Hurricane shack next to <a href="http://poppystimeoutsportsbar.com/" target="_blank">Poppy’s</a>, where a middle-aged white woman stood bullshitting with the guy behind the counter. It was time to up my open container game. <br />
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<b>Me:</b> “Can I get a Hurricane?”<br />
<b>Bartender:</b> “What size?”<br />
<b>Woman:</b> “Gotta go with a large!”<br />
<b>Me:</b> “Then I’ll have a large! I ain’t working today!”<br />
<b>Woman:</b> “Exactly!”<br />
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Unlike the Hurricanes that Creole Shawty mixed up the night before, this one was delicious. I <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/573207068993196032" target="_blank">snapped a picture</a> of the drink in my hand, sparkling in the sunlight, and texted it to T.C. as a status update. <br />
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To hold a plastic cup in New Orleans is to hold a key to the kingdom of heaven. I stopped at the riverwalk’s edge and gazed out on the Mississippi. The warm bayou air slung an arm over my shoulders, and tapped its cup against mine. The smile on my face felt like it was years in the making.<br />
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I would walk back out to Poydras, down <a href="http://www.neworleansonline.com/directory/location.php?locationID=2102" target="_blank">Fulton Street</a> and on <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Orleans_Central_Business_District" target="_blank">through the CBD</a>. I circled back to the outlet mall on the waterfront, got myself a burger, and waited for T.C., who had responded to my Hurricane picture 45 minutes later with, “That a boy. Just woke up.”<br />
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My compatriot arrived, got himself a burger and sat down at the next food court table. In the subdued tones of men tending to wounds between battles, we compared notes on the night before. <br />
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<b>T.C.:</b> “When did we go to the strip club?”<br />
<b>Me:</b> “I didn’t go to a strip club.” <br />
<b>T.C.:</b> “Huh. Well, I have an ATM receipt from <a href="http://www.centerfoldsneworleans.com/" target="_blank">Centerfolds</a>…”<br />
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<b>Me:</b> “I feel like I tried to kiss a shot girl.”<br />
<b>T.C.:</b> “Oh, you didn’t just ‘<i>try</i>’…”<br />
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We grabbed frozen Hurricanes from the <a href="https://www.fat-tuesday.com/" target="_blank">Fat Tuesday</a> counter, and headed back to the hotel. New Orleans bustles with activity at every turn and sinew. Even when you happen upon a seemingly empty backstreet or courtyard, a frenetic energy fills the air. It’s like being surrounded by ghosts. And each of them has a to-go cup.<br />
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At the hotel we showered up and got ready for the night ahead. These three days were a work event for T.C.; he still had to schmooze customers and network with his fellow salesmen. And conferences always have a big reception on the second night, where a lot of schmoozing and networking goes down. I am not a salesman—neither in T.C.’s industry, nor in any other industry. So you can understand my concerns, as we strolled through the Ritz Carlton’s lobby towards a ballroom with moneyed people walking in and out of it. <br />
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<b>Me:</b> “What if someone asks me a question about medical equipment?”<br />
<b>T.C.:</b> “Just make up some bullshit.”<br />
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Umm… Sure.<br />
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Luckily, this nuanced, well-thought-out contingency plan never had to be set in motion, as we avoided getting involved in chitchat with anyone but ourselves. Hey, at least we were guaranteed good conversation.<br />
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When we first entered the room, a half-naked white woman stood near the entrance with a large boa constrictor draped over her shoulders. After a moment of wondering which one of them I wanted to pet more, I noticed the wooden masks and ambient lighting. They were playing off the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Louisiana_Voodoo" target="_blank">Creole voodoo history</a> of New Orleans—using a white woman as the priestess. *<i>sigh</i>* I took a swig of my <a href="https://abita.com/" target="_blank">Abita</a> and shook my head, knowing I was probably the only one in the room who saw something wrong with this.<br />
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<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-WzctDh2MeqA/VXjtRS40vgI/AAAAAAAATJQ/CQ30mmrXD10/s1600/Exterior_of_Hotel_Monteleone.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="180" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-WzctDh2MeqA/VXjtRS40vgI/AAAAAAAATJQ/CQ30mmrXD10/s200/Exterior_of_Hotel_Monteleone.jpg"></a>Mercifully we hit the exit after one beer a piece. The thick, humid air outside was a welcomed reminder of where I was, as I rolled up the sleeves of my white dress shirt. While we navigated the streets of the French Quarter, I told T.C. that I needed to go easier than I had the night before. No blacking out, no sexually harassing shot girls. Just take it easy. He didn’t dispute my assessment. <br />
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We aimed ourselves in the direction of the <a href="http://hotelmonteleone.com/" target="_blank">Hotel Monteleone</a>.<br />
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The Monteleone’s <a href="http://hotelmonteleone.com/entertainment/carousel-bar" target="_blank">Carousel Bar</a> had been on my bucket list for years. It <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/573288500520304640" target="_blank">houses a real carousel</a>, with a bar top and seats that slowly circle the bar in the center, approximately one rotation every 15 minutes. Every booze aficionado who has walked through NOLA in the past 20 years has found himself or herself seated at the revolving bar at some point in time. March 4, 2015 was my point in time. We got ourselves a couple of open seats, and I ordered up a <a href="http://liquor.com/recipes/vieux-carre/" target="_blank">Vieux Carre</a> [<i>I should have practiced more; in my excitement I pronounced it “Voo-Ka-Roh”</i>]. It tasted like <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/573289426039644160" target="_blank">jazz on my lips</a>. <br />
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When I reached the end of my glass (in about two rotations), I asked the bartender I was gently orbiting to make me a drink of his choosing, so long as it was made with bourbon. He hit me with a…well, I didn’t catch the name of the drink. It might’ve been a <a href="http://www.foodrepublic.com/recipes/kentucky-maid-cocktail-recipe/" target="_blank">Kentucky Maid</a>. All I know for sure is that it had bourbon and a hint of cucumber, and that it was magnificent. When they cremate my body, sprinkle some of the ashes at the Carousel Bar.<br />
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When we finally pried ourselves from the Merry-Go-Buy-A-Round, we addled across the street towards <a href="http://www.mrbsbistro.com/" target="_blank">Mr. B’s</a>, on a wing and a prayer that they had an opening. By the grace of god—<i>the god of barbecued shrimp</i>—there were two spots open at the bar. We moved into our new homes, tucking napkins into our collars and ordering up some libations. A <a href="http://www.themacallan.com/" target="_blank">Macallan’s 12</a> for me, please.<br />
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<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-d9Q2IU7WDt8/VXjuYoBZ9yI/AAAAAAAATJY/VebnydvXGvU/s1600/bbshrimp.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-d9Q2IU7WDt8/VXjuYoBZ9yI/AAAAAAAATJY/VebnydvXGvU/s200/bbshrimp.jpg" width="156"></a><b>T.C.:</b> “I love that you're talking about slowing down tonight, and <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/573305353753903105" target="_blank">then you order a scotch</a>.”<br />
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We got to know our new neighbors. T.C.’s was a cute brunette with a pixie cut—who he swore was giving him the “fuck me” eyes—and two younger guys. My half of the homestead bordered the property of a feisty little blonde woman in her early 50s named Roma, and two businessmen around her age who she was schooling on Louisiana. As I began peeling apart my shrimp, she turned and threw the decades of bayou-bred charm my way. <br />
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Roma was everything I want my future wife to be when <strike>I’m</strike> she’s that old [<i>let’s face it, I’m <strike>marrying someone younger than me</strike> never marrying</i>]: funny, engaging, and loved LSU football like I loved the Macallan in my hand. And 20 years ago she would’ve had any guy in there fighting to get her back to his hotel room. Hell, a couple more glasses of Macallan and I would’ve considered it that night.<br />
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After a dinner where I miraculously came away without any major barbecue stains on my all-white shirt, we set out to find the places we’d missed along Bourbon St. the night before. We stopped in <a href="http://www.beerfestnola.com/" target="_blank">BeerFest</a> for some good beer. We stopped in <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bourbon-Bandstand/429260503854642" target="_blank">Bourbon Bandstand</a>, and hung out on its balcony; I can now say I’ve seen boobs flashed on Bourbon Street (I was crossing off bucket list items left and right). And then we stopped in a place whose name I remember, but will never utter on this page, because I’m not into giving free publicity to douchebags.<br />
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We had been at the well-under-capacity bar long enough to order ourselves a couple of beers. It wasn’t much longer before a guy in glasses walked over to us and asked us to step to the side. We complied, and <i>after</i> complying I casually asked why he had wanted us to move. “Because I’m the owner, and I’m telling you to,” was the response I got. Uhh…okay. <br />
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<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-41MlKQSN-FM/VXjwffpWSoI/AAAAAAAATJk/p0jESUslXQA/s1600/youre-a-douchebag.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-41MlKQSN-FM/VXjwffpWSoI/AAAAAAAATJk/p0jESUslXQA/s200/youre-a-douchebag.jpeg" width="143"></a><b>Me:</b> “I was just asking.”<br />
<b>Douche:</b> “You’re out of here!”<br />
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He then called over the bouncers to remove us. T.C. asked one of them what we’d done. The muscled henchman shrugged his shoulders in the manner of a good person who has to rely on a waste of human life for a paycheck. By all accounts, we were in the right. But the walking inadequacy complex owned the place, and wielded that power with impunity. <br />
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I’ve been kicked out of many a bar in my lifetime, in cities all across this fine nation. And even when I’ve been innocent, I’ve been able to point to some action by either me or one of my friends as the turning point. Never once, before that night, had I been booted for absolutely no reason whatsoever. I didn’t act unruly. I wasn’t debilitatingly drunk. I didn’t even mouth off to the toilet stain. But apparently he doesn’t like making money by serving alcohol to people who ask him benign questions. Not the best business strategy, but hey…*<i>shrug</i>* <i>Douchebags gonna douchebag</i>. Those bouncers better find new paychecks, fast.<br />
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The beauty of being ostracized from a bar on Bourbon, though, is you know you have another 100 shots at it before you’re going to go thirsty. We walked a couple of doors down, and I moved myself towards brownout. <br />
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…Did I mention I was going to slow down?<br />
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The next thing I remember clearly, we were standing at a hot dog cart. And I was taking a bite out of my hot dog. And mustard from my hot dog was splattering all over my white dress shirt. <br />
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Bourbon Street’d. <br />
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T.C. found this situation hilarious. It’s not often we disagree. He wandered off towards another bar, but I ran back to the hotel room for a wardrobe change. <br />
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When I returned in a new shirt, I found that my friend had made new friends. One was shorter, with shoulder-length hair and a face that reminded me of cigarettes. She wore a tank top and jean shorts. The other was taller and prettier, with long hair and eyes that reminded me of daddy issues. She wore a shirt tied into a knot in the front and an emotionally defensive glare. T.C., meanwhile, wore a sloppy, oblivious grin. <br />
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<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-0HwZOmgbnw0/VXjxQ3cQCJI/AAAAAAAATJs/T6L1dN9Agsk/s1600/Vegas-Wife.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="141" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-0HwZOmgbnw0/VXjxQ3cQCJI/AAAAAAAATJs/T6L1dN9Agsk/s200/Vegas-Wife.jpg" width="200"></a>After a couple of bars, I was <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/573401546181894145" target="_blank">already tired of the off-duty strippers</a> that T.C. didn’t even realize were off-duty strippers. I’m not sure if he even realized they were <i>there</i>—he probably still doesn’t. To be honest, I’m not entirely certain they weren’t just a figment of my drunken imagination. Or that they weren’t just NOLA ghosts. <br />
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*<i>thinking</i>* They might’ve been ghosts…<br />
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I abandoned the scene, and sought out <a href="http://www.erinrosebar.com/" target="_blank">Erin Rose</a> on Conti Street. My stepbrother (<a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2011/09/take-me-to-another-place-take-me-to.html" target="_blank">Step Bro</a>) is a NOLA vet, and had recommended it to me. The man was right. Erin Rose is a drinker’s bar, with all of the energy and none of the schlock of Bourbon Street. <br />
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But I was a man without a country, and too drunk to create new friends from strangers. I stumbled off toward the hotel. When I hit Bourbon, I ran into a solo T.C.; I guess he finally realized those two chicks at the bar were actually with <i>him</i>. We chuckled at this magical world called New Orleans, and found our way back to the sanity of our hotel beds.<br />
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[<i>To be continued...</i>]The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-78695390946099169052015-05-23T17:25:00.003-07:002015-05-23T17:25:50.827-07:00Bromance MaterialChris Pratt is pretty awesome. Especially since, despite the TV and movie success, the good looks, the money, and the beautiful actress-wife, he never seems to take life too seriously. And now we also know that he loves <a href="http://www.fireballwhisky.com/" target="_blank">Fireball</a>. Sounds like he'd fit right in with my crew of misfits. <br />
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Hey Chris, does Anna have any single friends you could introduce me to?<br />
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I also don't know how it took me seven months to finally see this video. *<i>sigh</i>*<br />
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From <a href="http://www.playboy.com/articles/badass-lingerie-football-player-chugs-beer" target="_blank">Playboy</a>:<br />
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</center>Now there's a gal you can snuggle up on the couch with and watch Sportscenter.The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-80683728610396669952015-04-07T19:01:00.000-07:002015-06-10T19:26:57.861-07:00Wherever I May Reauxm (Part 1)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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It took roughly 54 hours before I sipped alcohol again. Keep in mind, I wasn’t hungover that entire time. Sure, I dueled with the common withdrawal symptom of good ol’ incontinence early Friday evening, but I had quickly shaken the beast. And I wasn’t really concerned for my long-term health. (Well, no more than usual. I mean, <i>come on</i>…) Certainly, I had not been lacking options. Swag invited me to a bar crawl in the South Side (<a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/630417753751273/" target="_blank">St. Practice Day</a>) on Saturday, and I always keep a modest-but-well-stocked liquor cabinet at home. <br />
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So what was it? What made me stay home and dry through an entire weekend, drinking nothing but Gatorade, ginger ale, or juice when I felt an urge to wet my whistle?<br />
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Alcohol felt boring.<br />
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This is what they don’t tell you about going to New Orleans.<br />
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Let’s rewind to a Thursday morning in mid-February. As I hurried through my office building’s garage, running late for work yet again, my phone buzzed. It was T.C. <br />
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I’ve <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2011/03/laissez-les-bons-temps-rouler.html" target="_blank">dreamed about visiting New Orleans</a> for most of my adult life. Its vibrant culture, historic streets, iconic bars, and world famous food have called to me through TV screens and magazine pages. The city is booze, culture, parties, food, and music—basically, everything I love—rolled into one chill, unassuming package. NOLA has long been the girl-next-door pinup model in posters hanging on the walls of my mind.<br />
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My flight landed late in the afternoon on March 3rd, and like a good <strike>35-year-old</strike> son I called my mom from the cab to let her know I’d arrived safely. “And now you’re going to go drink,” she said in a slightly disappointed tone. <br />
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“I mean, first I’m going to get cleaned up, but…”<br />
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When I got to the room, T.C. was at a work function. I hopped in the shower and washed public air travel off me [<i>no trip has ever fortified my desire to become private-plane-rich more</i>], and was dressed by the time my homie walked through the door carrying two beers.<br />
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Our immediate concern was dinner. One of our friends had suggested <a href="http://www.mrbsbistro.com/" target="_blank">Mr. B’s Bistro</a>, and its outstanding barbecued shrimp. Expecting it to be a hurricane shack—or a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hurricane_%28cocktail%29" target="_blank">Hurricane</a> shack—we strolled over for a bite. We were instead greeted by a classy five-star restaurant that was filled to the fire code with guests. The bar seating was also full, and the earliest dinner reservation we could get was for 8:30 pm the <i>next</i> night. <br />
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“So that’s a ‘no’ on the barbecued shrimp…” Plan B was to find something on Bourbon St. Not bad, as far as Plan B’s go.<br />
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In 2015, it’s not only cliché to say there’s a magical feel to a night in New Orleans, it’s cliché to say <i>that</i> it’s cliché to say there’s a magical feel to a night in New Orleans. And it’s easy to be reductive, and assume the “magic” people feel—that I felt, as I strolled towards <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/572930708206796800/" target="_blank">the shiny street sign</a> that read “Bourbon”—comes from the more lascivious features of Bourbon Street. Yes, getting drunk and seeing boobs both make me happy (…I think this is well documented). But they don’t cause the magic; they’re an effect of it. As you pass the policemen and sawhorses that turn it from street to playground, your mind dances. The air is light. Every face has a smile. Music is playing. There’s laughter. There’s energy. There’s the moment. It’s everything.<br />
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I pulled myself back into consciousness, as we had a dining decision to make. A very scientific and well thought out decision, it involved us strolling past <a href="http://www.pier424seafoodmarket.com/" target="_blank">Pier 424 Seafood Market</a> and saying to each other, “This sound good to you?” <br />
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We settled in and ordered ourselves some eats—including fried alligator—and some drinks. T.C. called for an IPA, while I chose a house concoction that came in a sling glass and tasted like candy. A poor choice, sure, but at least it had Jim Beam in it. Needing my machismo reaffirmed, I was already plotting out a new drink order when T.C. asked the bartender to bring him something “New Orleans” that had whiskey in it. Barkeep, make that two. We soon had two <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sazerac" target="_blank">Sazeracs</a> sitting in front of us. <br />
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<i><a href="http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/laissez_les_bons_temps_rouler" target="_blank">Laissez les bons temps rouler</a></i>.<br />
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As I finished my shrimp po-boy, T.C. threw his corporate card on the bar and simultaneously ordered a rum & Coke for the road. The man’s a born leader. I fell in line, adding a Makers & Coke (to go) to the final tally, and we were soon back in the warm night air of the French Quarter with cold plastic cups in our hands.<br />
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We happened upon <a href="http://www.spiritsonbourbon.com/index5.html" target="_blank">Spirits on Bourbon</a>. T.C., a <i><a href="http://www.spike.com/shows/bar-rescue" target="_blank">Bar Rescue</a></i> fan, recognized it immediately. In we went. I haven’t watched much of the show, but I’d assumed the successful business strategy that <a href="http://www.spike.com/shows/bar-rescue/bios/jon-taffer" target="_blank">Jon Taffer</a> imparted to each bar owner was something more shrewd and insightful than “Just talk about how you were on this show once.” TV screens around the room play a 30-second promo clip of the episode on an endless loop. Bar Rescue-themed t-shirts hang behind the bar for sale, along with mugs and other trinkets. Signs saying “As Seen on TV” adorn the taps. It reminds you of that guy who constantly talks about that one touchdown he scored in high school.<br />
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The good news: That annoying self-promotion is only born from insecurity, and isn’t a Band-Aid on a bullet wound. Spirits is actually a really good bar, with cool staff and a nice vibe. They just need to learn how to be comfortable in their own skin (that is to say, <i>as a bar</i> they need to learn; the beautiful blonde bartender with the low-cut top straining to hold back her blessings is <i>quite</i>—and well-deservingly—comfortable in her own skin). Act like you belong, and people will think you belong. And Spirits belongs.<br />
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After a couple of draughts and the piano player tickling “<a href="https://youtu.be/3WAZ60xA9wo" target="_blank">Home Sweet Home</a>” out of the ivories at T.C.’s request, we strolled out in search of the next bar. <a href="http://www.maisonbourbon.com/" target="_blank">Maison Bourbon</a> caught our attention, with a big raucous brass band hammering away inside. What better place for a couple of Miller Lites? Unfortunately, the band was going on break right as we arrived. So after one beer, we were off into the night once more. <br />
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The next establishment—or, rather, the next I remember visiting—was <a href="http://tropicalisle.com/" target="_blank">Tropical Isle</a>. <br />
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Now, if you don’t know much about New Orleans, you’ve probably never heard of this fine NOLA institution. Hell, I hadn’t, and I was infatuated with the town. But, it’s quite likely that you’ve heard of another NOLA institution, that being the beloved Hand Grenade. Well Tropical Isle is the home of the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hand_Grenade_%28cocktail%29" target="_blank">Hand Grenade</a>. “And if anyone tries to tell you differently,” the bartender said, “Tell us. We’ll sue ‘em.”<br />
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<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-9dKfdrfKRYQ/VSSG1HsOxHI/AAAAAAAASFk/pFkYsxTIBV0/s1600/hg.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="185" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-9dKfdrfKRYQ/VSSG1HsOxHI/AAAAAAAASFk/pFkYsxTIBV0/s1600/hg.jpg" /></a>*<i>sips the delicious nectar</i>*<br />
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You got it. Fuck ‘em.<br />
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I’m fairly certain <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/572972271268052994/" target="_blank">the Hand Grenade (and the draught)</a> that I drank at Tropical Isle were my kill shot. Not to get ahead of myself, but the night gets a lot dimmer after that stop. But while we were safely within their walls, the world was bright and colorful. <br />
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That included the band on the stage that was rocking the house down. They were even better when you consider that the lead singer was an overweight, middle-aged white woman. Which led to this gem from T.C.: “Is that lead singer from <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monessen,_Pennsylvania" target="_blank">Monessen</a>?” [<i>Okay, you probably have to be from Pittsburgh to get it. If you’re not, just picture a hillside white trash community. Or, you know, just move on. But damn it if it wasn’t funny as hell in the moment.</i>]<br />
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The next stop was…uh…well…I have no clue. It was dark. The bartender at the back bar was <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/572983265528709120" target="_blank">a very cute, light-skinned (possibly Creole?) girl</a>, who served us beers and said a bunch of words that the in-house band, my overwhelmed consciousness, and time conspired to keep me from remembering. <br />
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Wanting to switch up from beer, we asked her to make us another Nawlins tradition: Hurricanes. …Not a wise decision. We quickly realized that Creole Shawty wasn’t manning the Tuesday night shift because of her mixology excellence. Her Hurricane was three parts rum, two parts juice, and five parts lighter fluid. We winced as we tried to work our way through them, before T.C. made an executive decision to toss them when she wasn’t looking. Back out into the night we went.<br />
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Around 1:30, I stumbled down Bourbon and back to the hotel, realizing as I got off the elevator—on what I hoped was the correct floor—that I’d left T.C. behind. I texted my apologies, found the room, and fell on my bed. <br />
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Bourbon Street’d.<br />
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[<i><a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2015/06/wherever-i-may-reauxm-part-2.html" target="_blank">To be continued...</a></i>]The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-5298981496572061982015-03-27T23:30:00.001-07:002015-03-27T23:30:29.162-07:00Sign Language: Into the WildBetter to be safe than sorry...<br />
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The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-2174176673902861422015-02-04T21:56:00.000-08:002015-02-04T21:56:51.675-08:00We're Not For Everyone (Days 3 and 4)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-zze-S5oCa4Y/VNLz_vBhRAI/AAAAAAAAR8A/UUAteev38QY/s1600/01brunch.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-zze-S5oCa4Y/VNLz_vBhRAI/AAAAAAAAR8A/UUAteev38QY/s1600/01brunch.jpg" height="500" width="500" /></a></div><br />
[<i><a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2015/01/were-not-for-everyone-day-2.html" target="_blank">Click here for Day 2</a></i>]<br />
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<b><i>Sunday, March 23rd </i></b><br />
I didn’t—and still don’t—remember much from the tail end of Saturday night, but I quickly knew food had played a central role. A box from a pizza Hurley had ordered sat on the dresser, <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/447754985959620609" target="_blank">two still-wrapped kielbasa sandwiches</a> sat on the floor where MoFo had slept (next to the towel he’d used for warmth), and the Hurley-eating-someone’s-room-service-leftovers story was getting full play in the morning briefing.<br />
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Trip informed us that we were each up $150 from betting on tourney games, with Sunday’s games yet to come. You mean I could potentially spend three days drinking myself stupid in Raleigh, and come home richer than I’d left? I felt like Shoeless Joe Jackson emerging from the corn on <a href="http://youtu.be/VztoDZm4Gzk" target="_blank">Ray Kinsella’s farm</a>.<br />
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“<i>Is this heaven?</i>”<br />
“<i>No. It’s Raleigh.</i>”<br />
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Like the day before, MoFo had left before any of us awoke. But this time, he wouldn’t be striding triumphantly through the door with pizzas. We were left to handle Raleigh without a host for a while. So what do four hungover guys from out of town do on the Sunday morning of a four-day roadtrip/bender? They go to brunch, of course.<br />
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We shuffled down the street and into <a href="http://www.oxfordraleigh.com/" target="_blank">The Oxford</a>, where a cute redheaded hostess looked at us and did her best to stifle a laugh. How dare she? We got ourselves a table and drinks, and then headed toward the buffet to avenge her disrespect with waffles and bacon. And barbecue—sweet, sweet, North Carolina barbecue. Vengeance is delicious.<br />
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<b>Tanya:</b> “So what are you guys celebrating?”<br />
<b>Me:</b> “Friendship.”<br />
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By then MoFo had caught up with us, and all five of us watched Kansas go down in flames, along with our winning streak. So much for going home up on the weekend. Might as well drink it off.<br />
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I’d started with mimosas—it was brunch, after all—but had switched to Vodka Red Bulls. Hurley tried to find himself with Captain & Cokes. MoFo and T.C. pounded beers. Sitting to my left, Trip may have looked like he was ahead of all of us, but it was mostly an attempt to rehydrate. In the first 45 minutes that we were there, he seemed to <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/447783957955084288" target="_blank">order every drink available</a> on and off their menu, most of them non-alcoholic. <br />
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Tanya loved us. Her phone number would be MoFo’s trophy.<br />
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We went back to the hotel room to regroup. We knew we wanted to go to the Mercer/Tennessee game that afternoon. We didn’t have tickets, but we’d figure that out once we got to <a href="http://www.thepncarena.com/" target="_blank">PNC Arena</a>. While we meditated on it all, MoFo ate the two leftover street meat sandwiches.<br />
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We hopped into a hotel van, and pointed the driver towards <a href="http://www.backyardbistro.com/" target="_blank">Backyard Bistro</a>. It’s a happy little sports bar & grill, situated (literally) across the street from the arena. We made our way to the bar in the center of the establishment, which was a bigger accomplishment than it may sound. The building was packed with Mercer and Tennessee fans, with a few University of Virginia folks sprinkled about. Each of us ordered a Vodka Red Bull double. The time for fucking around had passed.<br />
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Eventually, someone amongst us who wasn’t petite, female, and from Georgia made the executive decision that attending the game wasn’t going to happen for those of us who weren’t petite, female, and from Georgia. It might’ve had something to do with us still not having tickets 30 minutes before game time. Or <i>maybe</i> it was because MoFo started beef with Tennessee fans by chanting taunts in response to their fight songs. <i>Maybe</i>. <br />
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When Barb and Whitney left us to go witness their alma mater’s moment in the spotlight, we called the hotel van. Did we ask the driver to take us to the Marriott? Never! We had him take us back to <a href="http://www.bigmikessmokinbbq.com/" target="_blank">Big Mike’s BBQ</a>, and our cute Saturday pal, Jacqui. <br />
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We got ourselves a table and some drinks, and fell back into old habits. Drinks, drinks, drinks, shots, drinks, shots, drinks. Standard. Jacqui wasn’t working tables that night, though, and appeared to be off-duty. Eventually, a few of us sat down at the bar, and began BS’ing with the cute blonde bartender. We offered to buy her a shot.<br />
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<b>Cute Blonde Bartender:</b> “Thanks, but I’ll pass. We just had a waitress get fired last night for that. She came into work drunk, and then this table full of guys from out of town started buying her shots. She was hammered. She told off the manager, and he fired her ass on the spot.”<br />
<b>Us:</b> “Wha…” *<i>looking at each other</i>*<br />
<b>Cute Blonde Bartender:</b> *<i>looks at us</i>* “…it was you guys, wasn’t it?”<br />
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Well, <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/447895051889549312" target="_blank">that’s awkward</a>. <br />
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<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-AgR_SeLjBGE/VNL6DhY9McI/AAAAAAAAR8c/h5gOHG-ry1s/s1600/keep-calm-and-be-a-bad-influence.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-AgR_SeLjBGE/VNL6DhY9McI/AAAAAAAAR8c/h5gOHG-ry1s/s1600/keep-calm-and-be-a-bad-influence.png" height="185" /></a>I’ve often thought that the whole “the customer’s always right” reasoning was unfair, and here was a sterling example. <i>We</i> offered her free shots, but she got punished, for making us—her customers—happy. That just feels sadistic. [<i>If, by any strange chance, you’re reading this, Jacqui, allow me to apologize for whatever role we played in your change of employment. I hope you landed on your feet. I’ll be happy to cover you for a night of drinking with us if you hit me up in the comments.</i>] <br />
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We mourned Jacqui’s career at Big Mike’s by…continuing to drink at Big Mike’s (sorry Jacqui). And before long we had two new party guests: Tanya and her roommate. Our favorite brunch waitress had taken up MoFo on his offer to have a few drinks and let her hair down. She had also let her suspenders down. So, really, I guess that made <i>four</i> new party guests.<br />
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Tanya’s roommate was attractive—and insane. I mean, <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/448097988217700352" target="_blank">really insane</a>. I tried to listen to one of her stories, and found myself spinning through time like a Twilight Zone inhabitant. She was one of the prettiest women from whom I’ve ever actively tried to distance myself. <br />
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I’ll be honest; I started browning out around this point. Sometimes it’s best to just let the good times carry you. The memories I <i>do</i> have play like a soundtrack-fueled movie montage, full of scenes like sitting at the bar, and talking to Cute Blonde Bartender; an old drunk mouthing off, to the point where Trip—<i>Drunk Trip</i>, who’s one of the friendliest and most affable people on the planet—raised up and made him leave the bar; and <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/448100192248946690" target="_blank">laughing with friends</a> while debating things loudly. <br />
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…I don’t know how we got to a strip club, though. Fucking brown outs.<br />
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<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-1-87AMhUzP0/VNL7At-ilyI/AAAAAAAAR8k/3wyQpJylX2Y/s1600/No-Street-Strippers-Iceland1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-1-87AMhUzP0/VNL7At-ilyI/AAAAAAAAR8k/3wyQpJylX2Y/s1600/No-Street-Strippers-Iceland1.jpg" height="200" width="150" /></a>I came back to consciousness as we walked into a club of stripping, the familiar tones of darkened rooms, pulsating music, and soft, neon blue lighting greeting me like I’d stumbled into an old friend in a new town. I was with T.C. and Hurley; we’d left MoFo and Trip with Tanya and her crazy ass roommate. As we found chairs in a giant room filled with small stages and comfortable seating, all I could truly understand was that I didn’t want to be there. <br />
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<a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2014/04/kang-like-tibut-in-chi-daffy-pt-2.html" target="_blank">My DGAF</a> had returned.<br />
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I’d like to offer some deeply thought out treatise on why I wasn’t the slightest bit enthused about being in a club full of beautiful, naked women. I don’t have one. My boys were into the moment, and eager to watch Raleigh’s finest ply their trade. But all I could focus on was being somewhere else. <br />
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I walked out to the front door, and asked the bouncers to call me a cab. Like true homies, Hurley and T.C. were right behind me, sacrificing their night to make sure I wasn’t voyaging off alone in my (obviously) inebriated state. They’re great friends. They’re also stupid. But they’re great (stupid) friends. We cabbed back to the hotel, and I passed out before my head hit the pillow.<br />
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<b><i>Monday, March 24th</i></b> <br />
If there’s one thing that sucks about a road trip, it’s the last day. Every part of it is a kick to your psyche’s crotch. That’s especially true if a hangover is involved, because it doesn’t really hit full stride until you’re on the road; so, as a result, the anticipation torments you while you’re getting yourself ready to go home that morning. You’d swear you could hear the firing squad load their rifles. <br />
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I hated every moment of showering and packing. I didn’t want to say goodbye to Raleigh. It is, after all, part of my family’s heritage. <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2011/09/take-me-to-another-place-take-me-to.html" target="_blank">My father</a> was born just down the road in <a href="https://www.google.com/?gws_rd=ssl#q=rhamkatte%2C+nc" target="_blank">Rhamkatte</a>, and I’ve spent numerous family reunions in the area, taking in the Carolina hospitality and running rampant through the red clay woodlands. Ironically, my pops had called me on Friday afternoon, when we had just reached the city limits. When I told him where I was, he asked if I’d be checking in with any of our family members who live in the area.<br />
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<b>Me:</b> “…<i>No</i>.”<br />
<b>Dad:</b> “…Okay then.”<br />
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<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-jvj7plJJBk8/VNL8EfBPlGI/AAAAAAAAR8s/BGXie5fMeTQ/s1600/tumblr_mo7vsaMELQ1s5tztao6_400.gif" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-jvj7plJJBk8/VNL8EfBPlGI/AAAAAAAAR8s/BGXie5fMeTQ/s1600/tumblr_mo7vsaMELQ1s5tztao6_400.gif" height="145" width="200" /></a>I love my family, but this wasn’t a weekend for anything as responsible as reconnecting with relatives. This was a guys’ weekend: four men on a road trip, casting aside every worry and responsibility that saddles them the other 361 days of the year. Five friends with <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2014/12/were-not-for-everyone-intro.html" target="_blank">varying relationship statuses</a> and claims on their personal time, taking hold of one of the few chances we’re given to be young(<i>-ish</i>) and stupid again. This was a time to be selfish, and to revel in that selfishness. <br />
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And revel we had. <br />
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But oh, that <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/448147665298407425" target="_blank">return leg of a road trip</a>. It’s nauseating, even without the hangover. <i>With</i> the hangover, it’s pure hell. No amount of McDonalds, Gatorade, snacks, bottles of water, or reassessments of past decisions can get you to where you’re going faster. The only thing that takes your mind off the travel, for brief moments of respite, is rehashing the tales you’ve just lived in the previous 80 hours. It tricks the mind—however briefly—into thinking the good times are still rolling, that you’re not trapped in an SUV hundreds of miles from your couch and TV. <br />
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During one of those moments of postgame analysis, somewhere in Hour Four of the drive, I hit upon a realization: We’d <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/448568126247280640" target="_blank">heavily impacted</a> the service industry in Raleigh, for better or worse. Bartenders charmed. Waitresses fired. Pockets fattened. <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2015/01/were-not-for-everyone-day-2.html" target="_blank">Wet Pussies tasted</a>. Boobs creep-shot. Lives shared. Nerves tested.<br />
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With a shake of his head, and a brief pause of self-reflection, T.C. wrapped a bow on it: “We’re not for everyone.”The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-67092413022750098442015-01-31T11:19:00.000-08:002015-05-06T11:21:29.053-07:00Drunks Say the Darndest Things 7<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-DtlT1UA4MmY/VM0Dyj1nYdI/AAAAAAAAR3w/VGddYMSs7D0/s1600/drunk-heart-life-quote-text-Favim.com-366883.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-DtlT1UA4MmY/VM0Dyj1nYdI/AAAAAAAAR3w/VGddYMSs7D0/s1600/drunk-heart-life-quote-text-Favim.com-366883.jpg" width="500" /></a></div><br />
Do you really need the intro? Can’t we just skip the foreplay, like adults? Okay, not like, you know, <i>adults who still care about things</i>. I mean: like married people.<br />
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Look, you’re smart people. You know what this is all about. It’s the end of January—the truly savvy amongst you have probably been wondering how much longer they’d have to wait for this to be posted. <br />
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Each year I record the best drunken quotes—<i>that I can remember</i>—that my friends and I have slurred, and package up <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2014/01/drunks-say-darndest-things-6.html" target="_blank">the crème de la blotto crème</a> for the readers. And I usually throw in one or two that are from years past, that I hadn’t written about—<i>or hadn’t remembered</i>—before that posting. Because there’s nothing better than someone thinking the dumb shit they said is dead and buried, only to have it brought back up several years later and enjoyed by all.<br />
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<ul><li>The Saturday dedicated to <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2013/08/extremely-swag-incredibly-close.html" target="_blank">Swag’s birthday celebration in ’13</a> had gone pretty much how everyone had expected: Everyone got drunk, except for the man of honor, who got <i>really</i> drunk, and had to be taken home by his girlfriend before midnight. He had piled on multiple gin & tonics and shots at the bar, after multiple beers and shots while we all pregamed at his place. “Slow and steady” was not in his skill set that weekend. He was out to sprint the marathon.<br />
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<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-MdeY_LMNIak/VM0cXj3uTII/AAAAAAAAR4A/Vl2KVOoNZME/s1600/Front%2Bimage_drinking-water.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-MdeY_LMNIak/VM0cXj3uTII/AAAAAAAAR4A/Vl2KVOoNZME/s1600/Front%2Bimage_drinking-water.jpg" height="128" width="200" /></a>The next morning, the few of us who had crashed at his place sat around his living room, trying to steady ourselves. Swag leapt up from the couch and casually announced, “I’m getting a shot of Fireball.” JL, being the best friend that his hungover state would allow him to be in that moment, called out behind him, “Swag! <i>Water</i> is acceptable, too.”<br />
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<li>As I’ve stated before, the <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2014/12/were-not-for-everyone-intro.html" target="_blank">wild Raleigh weekend</a> that I took part in last March involved five guys in very different places in their social lives. And the one married guy on hand wasn’t making his place look like a place the rest of us really wanted to be in. We were driving back to Raleigh from Chapel Hill, when Trip admitted that his fiancée’s sexual appetite was more than he could handle at times. T.C.’s jealousy boiled over. “Hey,” he cut in from the backseat, “I had to buy a pair of Uggs to get sex the last time!”<br />
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<li>Later that night, after we’d gotten rid of the two random chicks <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2014/12/were-not-for-everyone-day-1-pt-2.html" target="_blank">who tried trolling for out-of-town dick</a>, we all settled in for the night. With five grown men and only two beds, MoFo was the odd man out, and forced to set up camp on the floor. Feeling bad for him, Hurley pulled the comforter off the bed he and Trip were splitting, and tossed it down to MoFo. When Trip protested because he didn’t want to be cold, Hurley countered with impassioned logic. “Trip, we have <i>the sheet</i>!”<br />
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<li><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-7NefkHeHCCw/VM0dtpaW0qI/AAAAAAAAR4M/THWQUUB39i4/s1600/holiday_spirits_by_cra_zshaker-d4jo2x3.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-7NefkHeHCCw/VM0dtpaW0qI/AAAAAAAAR4M/THWQUUB39i4/s1600/holiday_spirits_by_cra_zshaker-d4jo2x3.jpg" height="148" width="200" /></a>Christmas Eve, as has become our tradition, saw TD, Boy Toy, and TJ join my cousin, her husband, and I at my mom’s house for dinner, gifts, and lots of wine. While we warmed up with hors d'oeuvres—and lots of wine—in the kitchen, we somehow got onto the topic of pain meds. My mom mentioned that, after all of the cleaning and cooking that she’d done that day, she took a Vicodin to help with her back pain. TD couldn’t hold back her stream of consciousness. “You’re drinking wine <i>and</i> taking Vicodin? You’re a hardass bitch!”<br />
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<li>In case you were questioning my pedigree, my dear mother got hers later in the night. TD said she was too full to eat dessert, and with a twinkle in her eye Mom replied, “Yeah, ‘cause you’re a skinny little bitch.”<br />
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<li>Last week, Armo, TJ, one of TJ’s buddies from work, and I were at the Penguins/Blackhawks game, having a drink between periods. A stunning blonde standing at the bar quickly became the subject of our conversation, as she talked to her girlfriend and scrolled through her iPhone. When Armo offered, “She looks healthy,” I countered, “She looks…like she takes dicks to the face.”<br />
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<li>I missed the first night of <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2014/05/free-wheeling.html" target="_blank">Trip’s bachelor party</a>, but from all accounts it was a night of drunken stupidity befitting a party thrown in Trip’s honor. At dinner that night, some of the bridegroom’s closest friends took turns standing in front of the room to tell a few stories about him and sing his praises. Then his old man stood up. “I went out one Saturday, got drunk while playing 36 holes, and then went home. Nine months later, this little bastard was born. The moral of the story: Play 54.”<br />
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<li><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-_6WdrmFOzBA/VM0f4RJwjVI/AAAAAAAAR4g/ajUBCgj4grk/s1600/fcbe7f77894ebe0dff7a0bef9bc23004.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-_6WdrmFOzBA/VM0f4RJwjVI/AAAAAAAAR4g/ajUBCgj4grk/s1600/fcbe7f77894ebe0dff7a0bef9bc23004.jpg" height="100" /></a>My Lil Sis, TD, has more game than an Xbox. One night, during a recent trip to New York City, she fell in lust with a cute brunette bartender. While telling me about it over text messages the next day, she reported, “I just texted her and said I have Molly in my tits to motorboat.”<br />
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<li>Under The Porch (UTP) and <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2015/01/what-i-learned-this-summer-2014.html" target="_blank">Four-Foot-D’s (FFDs)</a> hit it off swimmingly at the Fourth of July party, and were all over each other at the end of the night. I was standing on the porch, doing keg stands with some guys, when we looked over and saw the lovebirds making out in a chair. “Haha,” one of the guys—who was one of FFDs’ friends—blurted at UTP, “You’ve got Chlamydia on your face now!”<br />
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<li>One night during my <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/search/label/Ocean%20City" target="_blank">oft-referenced beach trip</a> to OCMD in 2003, we watched as one girl’s bad decision-making imploded her vacation. <br />
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A group of us had gone to <a href="https://www.facebook.com/BrassBallsSaloon" target="_blank">Brass Balls Saloon</a> for their beer pong night. After Armo and I finally got knocked off a table, we sat down at the bar and watched a pretty redhead flirt with our buddy as he played on his table. She was in her early 20s, like us, and she was pleasantly hammered. And she was making it very clear she wanted there to be further hammering. <br />
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After 20 minutes or so of her shameless sloring, a guy in his mid-30s appeared in front of her. Without saying a word, he yanked her purse out of her hand, rifled through it, pulled out a room key, and then threw the purse back at her. Muttering, “Have fun,” he stormed off.<br />
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<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-yCq8184fhIU/VM0jXBb8cLI/AAAAAAAAR4s/xkA4T-Cf-4U/s1600/keep-calm-and-slore-on.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-yCq8184fhIU/VM0jXBb8cLI/AAAAAAAAR4s/xkA4T-Cf-4U/s1600/keep-calm-and-slore-on.png" height="185" /></a>Our friend and Little Red Riding Slore left the bar together. When the rest of us got back to the house we’d all rented, one of the bedroom doors was shut and familiar noises were coming from the other side. <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2008/02/partying-at-paddock.html" target="_blank">Uncle Paulie</a> had been at another bar that night, and when he got back we filled him in on the story. Giggling like a schoolboy, he ripped his shirt off, flung open the bedroom door, and ran in announcing, “<a href="http://youtu.be/3rkAjnFB1g4" target="_blank">I’m here for the gangbang!</a>”<br />
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</ul>[<i>A bonus postscript: A couple of nights later, a few of us were in line for calzones at the pizza place around the corner from the house. We soon noticed a familiar face behind us in line, a few people back: Little Red Riding Slore. And she was with the older guy from Brass Balls. Seeing us, and the shit-eating grins on our faces that made it obvious we recognized them, they left the line and the pizza place without placing an order. I can only imagine the rest of their trip went just as well.</i>]The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-61766808921756829832015-01-24T23:55:00.000-08:002015-03-07T12:33:51.791-08:00We're Not For Everyone (Day 2)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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[<i><a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2014/12/were-not-for-everyone-day-1-pt-2.html" target="_blank">Click here for Day 1, Pt. 2</a></i>]<br />
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<b><i>Saturday, March 22nd </i></b> <br />
I hate sunlight.<br />
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When I awoke, there were only four of us still in the room. MoFo had left, and I struggled for a moment to remember if he’d followed the annoying chicks out the door before I’d passed out. Before long he returned—showered, shaved, and carrying two extra large pizzas. Game. The fuck. On.<br />
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As we worked through the shower rotation, the first three of us were cleaned and dressed by the time Trip had even gone into the bathroom. To show our displeasure with his holding us up (we wanted to get to a bar to watch Pitt’s tourney game), we employed a tactic that both avenged our suffering and tidied up the room a bit.<br />
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After grabbing every open beer bottle we could find in the room—and trust me, there were plenty—one-by-one we walked into the bathroom, announced, “Sorry Trip, gotta get rid of these” and poured the stale brews into the tub as he showered. Have you ever been engulfed by rotten, flat beer fumes heated and carried on the wings of choking plumes of steam? The sounds of cursing and gagging streamed out from behind the shower curtain and echoed through the hotel room, where four assholes laughed hysterically.<br />
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Still, that didn’t make Trip move any faster. Hurley volunteered to stay behind with him, so MoFo, T.C., and I marched through the downtown streets to <a href="http://www.raleightimesbar.com/" target="_blank">The Raleigh Times</a>. We made our homes on three barstools, and were introduced to one of the true natural wonders of this world: Cass, <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/447440925753880577" target="_blank">a brunette bartending angel</a> with beautiful, piercing eyes. <br />
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<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-8ptvkrPzzL8/VMSLm3K32GI/AAAAAAAARyo/JAbuz_GJFas/s1600/x8bi0c.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-8ptvkrPzzL8/VMSLm3K32GI/AAAAAAAARyo/JAbuz_GJFas/s1600/x8bi0c.jpg" height="140" /></a>As I charged myself up with a Vodka Red Bull and perused a menu, I made the mistake of speculating loud enough for MoFo and T.C. to hear me. “I’m not real hungry, but I should eat…maybe I’ll just have a salad.” This gave my friends the opening they didn’t need to begin disparaging my manhood, and Cass effortlessly joined in. For an angel, she really knows how to shove a pitchfork up your ass.<br />
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In an effort to redeem myself in her eyes, I switched my lunch order to a big sandwich, and my drink order to a whiskey soda. In all honesty, it was partly a plea for Cass’ respect, and partly a coping mechanism to handle Pitt’s thrashing at the hands of Florida. Hurley and Trip had finally joined us, and being ahead in our betting—and drinking—was all that brought us any solace. Well, Cass helped too. Especially her Wet Pussy.<br />
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…okay, I may need to explain that.<br />
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After a few rounds, Hurley was in search of something new to try. Cass offered up a specialty cocktail she had created. It was sweet and frothy, with a hint of peach, and guaranteed to satisfy. She called it a…okay, I think you’re caught up now.<br />
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We all took turns <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/447435402610487296" target="_blank">tasting Cass’ Wet Pussy</a>…*<i>pauses…thinking</i>*…as we learned more about her. She was originally from New Jersey. She had a dog. She also worked at <a href="http://www.cornerstoneraleigh.com/" target="_blank">Cornerstone</a>. She’d be slangin’ drinks down there that night, in fact. We stored that last tidbit in the back of our minds for future use, and thanked her for her…as we headed out the door.<br />
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Next up was <a href="http://www.beerknurd.com/stores/raleigh/" target="_blank">Flying Saucer</a>. Between the lively Saturday afternoon crowds, line of taps that stretched across the room, ceiling covered with plates featuring witty comments, and busty bartender whose neighborhood had been robbed of all bras that morning, we found plenty to keep our attention. <br />
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<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Mex6auV9vsg/VMSR8D3-lII/AAAAAAAARy4/FIaOkNbPmUE/s1600/b70575734004fe47a841886c9379ae54daf56b26c2dd1d4650978c9fc19296b9.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Mex6auV9vsg/VMSR8D3-lII/AAAAAAAARy4/FIaOkNbPmUE/s1600/b70575734004fe47a841886c9379ae54daf56b26c2dd1d4650978c9fc19296b9.jpg" height="165" width="165" /></a>I started with a draught, and settled in at the bar. But Saucer was running a special on <a href="http://www.esquire.com/drinks/moscow-mule-drink-recipe" target="_blank">Moscow Mules</a>, which led to T.C. babbling about them like a vacationing soccer mom. Expert mixology connoisseur that I am (shut up!), I schooled him on the “so yesterday-ness” of the latest drinking trend to hit your local T.G.I.Friday’s. And to give him a tangible example of how passé the Moscow Mule is, I asked Tits McGee to make me its Latin cousin. <br />
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The <a href="http://www.diffordsguide.com/cocktails/recipe/1306/mexican-mule" target="_blank">Mexican Mule</a> is basically the same recipe as a Moscow Mule, but the tasteless vodka is replaced with flavorful, full-bodied tequila. The exquisite mixture dazzled my taste buds, but when I let T.C. try a grown man’s drink, he balked at tasting alcohol for the first time in his life. Whatever. I enjoyed the <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/447460781219934208" target="_blank">best drink in the house</a> while I watched Hurley try to sneak a <a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=creepshot&rlz=1C2EODB_enUS516US518&biw=1366&bih=667&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=NILEVJqfH4fdsASM04HgAQ&ved=0CCMQsAQ" target="_blank">creep shot</a> of Tits McGee, who remained so elusive that I’m convinced she knew what he was up to.<br />
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Trip had ended up seated at the bar next to a nice—albeit lonely—guy in his late 20s from Montana, named Derrick. And so, for the third time in 24 hours, Trip + booze + talking to strangers = “<i><a href="http://youtu.be/eBpYgpF1bqQ" target="_blank">We are faaammmily…</a></i>” When we decided to find another bar—which became a 10 minute walk across town—Derrick was along for the ride. Still, he was a lot more fun to talk to than the <a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2014/12/were-not-for-everyone-day-1-pt-2.html" target="_blank">Clinger Sisters from Hibernian</a>. <br />
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We parked ourselves at <a href="http://www.bigmikessmokinbbq.com/" target="_blank">Big Mike’s BBQ</a> next. A cute brunette named Jacqui came by to take our table’s drink orders, and immediately won our support with her smile and chill attitude. I pounded a few whiskey sodas and MoFo pounded some mouthwatering barbecue, while we held court and watched the comings and goings of this little bar/restaurant just down the street from Cornerstone. <br />
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…Why were we near Cornerstone, you ask? Oh, no reason. We weren’t, like, waiting for Cass’ shift to start or anything. *<i>cough</i>*<br />
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<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-WlrJ9_eMgRs/VMSYVF9oQ8I/AAAAAAAARzI/aZGfKdLdhtU/s1600/just%2Bthe%2Btip%2Bcup.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-WlrJ9_eMgRs/VMSYVF9oQ8I/AAAAAAAARzI/aZGfKdLdhtU/s1600/just%2Bthe%2Btip%2Bcup.jpg" height="300" /></a>Besides, who needed Cass, when we had Jacqui taking care of us? A little firecracker, she entertained us with amusing remarks and made sure our glasses stayed full. And when my phone battery had neared its bottom, she took me up to the waitress’ station to plug it in. She was just an all-around cool chick.<br />
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Later, while checking my charging phone, I noticed Jacqui was visibly irritated as she totaled up the bill from another table. She said the bartenders and her boss were getting on her nerves. While I may not be a doctor, I do know of one surefire cure for stress. (Well, <i>two</i>, but…) When I offered her a shot…well, she didn’t say no. <br />
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The one caveat, she told us, was that waitresses weren’t allowed to drink while on duty. They still did, of course. But when they did shots, they snuck into the DJ booth in the corner, ducked down where the security camera couldn’t see them, and tossed it back. After she came back with a round of shots, we laughingly toasted to our “absent” waitress as we watched her crouch in the booth, several feet away. We did another round or two with her, even bringing in another cute waitress on duty for one; each time the people punching timecards hid in the DJ booth and then emerged looking more relaxed than they had when they walked in.<br />
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When we rolled out of there, quite a few hours after we’d rolled in, MoFo had Jacqui’s number saved in his phone and a promise from her that she’d catch up with us once her shift was over. <br />
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We piled into Cornerstone—minus Derrick, who had reached his full capacity for alcohol and high jinks in only a few hours of hanging with us (shocking). It didn’t take long to find Cass, who was hunkered down behind the bar on the deck, with thirsty frat bros yelling drink orders at her. My boys felt a little disrespected that she didn’t run up and embrace us. I’m not sure what they expected; personally, I was just happy that she seemed to recognize us, and gave us a quick smile before turning back to the frat bros.<br />
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Not that I would have been capable of understanding who was recognizing me at that time. I remember seeing Jacqui, briefly, when she caught up with us. But aside from that, I was browning out badly. By some unsubstantiated accounts (it takes more than four people to substantiate, dammit), yours truly was sleeping on his feet while standing at the bar. I <i>could</i> point to the sleep deprivation to which I’d exposed myself in the previous 48 hours, the six or so hours of sleep I’d countered it with the night before, and the <a href="https://twitter.com/CS_Defi/status/447506070412754945" target="_blank">copious amounts of alcohol</a> that Cass, Jacqui, and others had poured for me that day as justification for catching a little shuteye (while not falling over or spilling any drinks, by the way), but I’ll politely digress. <br />
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<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-sMLVXont4P8/VMSZFSe3JCI/AAAAAAAARzQ/CvkmSZL5990/s1600/Screenshot_2014-12-14-01-26-16.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-sMLVXont4P8/VMSZFSe3JCI/AAAAAAAARzQ/CvkmSZL5990/s1600/Screenshot_2014-12-14-01-26-16.png" height="300" /></a>What I <i>do</i> remember is feeling one of those “I need to strike out on my own” moments, and heading out into the North Carolina night. My goal was finding the hotel, but it was going to take the help of Google Maps before I would reach my destination. I think I found every junkyard in Raleigh along the way. I was so lost, in fact, that Hurley left 15 to 20 minutes later than me and was texting me from outside of our hotel room while I worked my way home. Seems I had a room key and he didn’t. Sucks to be him. I had Raleigh junkyards to tour!<br />
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At some point I found my way back to the main strip, where our hotel was. When Hurley sent me another text asking where I was, I snapped a picture of a kabob stand and sent it to him. He responded by saying that he’d just eaten the remains of the burger someone had left on their room service tray, outside of their room. Check, and mate.<br />
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[<i><a href="http://crookedstraightdrunks.blogspot.com/2015/02/were-not-for-everyone-days-3-and-4.html" target="_blank">To be continued...</a></i>]The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2145834935534736344.post-49830215341146307332015-01-16T22:33:00.000-08:002015-01-16T22:33:27.427-08:00Bombs AwayWant. <br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-O1QQW-qDUQw/VLoB_KeoCMI/AAAAAAAAQuo/lPK4vl_nhGw/s1600/tmg-slideshow_xl.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-O1QQW-qDUQw/VLoB_KeoCMI/AAAAAAAAQuo/lPK4vl_nhGw/s1600/tmg-slideshow_xl.jpg" height="320" width="180" /></a></div>Of course,considering that I don't have a girlfriend right now, and don't get out most nights of the week, my neighbors would probably be dialing up the FBI before I got this thing from my car to my front door. But it might just be worth the risk.<br />
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From <a href="http://www.supercompressor.com/home/the-bomb-cocktail-cabinet" target="_blank">Supercompressor</a>:<br />
<blockquote>If you're willing to invest in a top-shelf selection of booze for your house, it's worth showcasing it properly. For instance, inside this eight-foot tall 600 pound cluster bomb from the 1970s.<br />
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It's a behemoth of a conversation piece, and there's no reason to freak out about keeping it at home since It's been completely deactivated. It is, however, completely capable of getting you bombed in a different sense altogether.</blockquote>The D.E.F.I.http://www.blogger.com/profile/07254078157618574540noreply@blogger.com0